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Writing and Solitude
« on: May 29, 2017, 05:05:37 AM »
Do any of you get lonely when writing? I've got a book treatment and two competition deadlines for wed and a speech to write for tomorrow and all this being alone in my room is kinda lonely

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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #1 on: May 29, 2017, 05:22:55 AM »
After working in a very fast-paced, social environment I found it incredibly lonely. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy solitude as much as anyone, but isolation hit me from two directions. I am collaborative by nature, and I was accustomed to working as a member or leader of a group and relying on that group for feedback and input. I also enjoy people very much. With neither of those positive things, I found writing alone difficult and unsettling. It's one of the reasons I came to be a frequent visitor here.
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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #2 on: May 29, 2017, 08:14:39 AM »
you mean beyond it's obvious value in procrastination? :) ;D

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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #3 on: May 29, 2017, 01:17:30 PM »
Could you 2 get together on skype or something, and bounce off ideas to chase away the solitude, sometimes?
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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #4 on: May 29, 2017, 01:49:07 PM »
Not a bad idea, but my time has passed.
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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #5 on: May 29, 2017, 02:32:58 PM »
I enjoy the focus of writing during the limited times I do it. I don't think, though, that I could spend hours and hours every day on such a solitary activity.  Yet another reason I view it as a hobby. I think about folks who do needle point, wood working, etc. not for selling but for use or giving - but really for the quiet enjoyment of the effort.
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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #6 on: May 29, 2017, 04:14:10 PM »
No way, I'm never having any issues with loneliness. I've been struggling all last year with not having enough loneliness and space to myself... I even go outside to write, because even noisy cafes at least feel more "lonely" since I don't know anyone there. Less interruption/distraction.
I can happily sit down and write for 6h without seeing time fly by. I very often wrap my short stories like that, starting around 5 or 6pm and finishing around 1 or 2 am. Such time simply flies by. I'd never consider reading/writing as lonely time. It's inwards, private time, between myself and my stories or other people's stories.
When reading something epic, I can isolate myself for days until I'm done. It's usually work/life that encroaches on my happy lonesome time.

I don't think I've ever felt truly lonely in my entire life. I can socialise very easily if I care to, and like to keep a very small group of friends because I dislike handling too many demands on my time.
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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #7 on: May 29, 2017, 06:23:10 PM »
Maybe list which services you use to communicate Bradley?
If I have any in common I'll add you so you can rant at me. (am available through most of the day)
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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #8 on: May 30, 2017, 04:32:23 AM »
I love the solo aspect of writing. I am an incredibly antisocial person. :p

That said, sometimes it's really handy to have someone to bounce an idea off, or to decompress about something with. I've been cultivating various support groups recently - the group with whom I'm doing a workshop class, and a put-together group of agented-but-not-published authors online. I also have various old online friends with whom I used to write, whether fanfic or role-playing, who are great for tossing around ideas.

The great thing, for me, about online friends, is that the socialising can occur when I'm up for it, and not otherwise intrude on my working time. Even so, I need to be careful that I'm not going, "Hmm, I might send an email about this to X," because it's easier than just solving the damn problem. Sometimes talking it through is helpful. Sometimes I could just talk it through with my cat, or the wall. The point is that I need to solve it.

But to return to the base point: I'm totally antisocial. Or rather, I'm an introvert; being around people costs me energy, it doesn't give me energy.

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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #9 on: May 30, 2017, 04:53:51 AM »
I enjoy the solitude and can sit there for hours writing without noticing time pass. Though I've had to set various alarms on my phone as I've forgotten to eat a meal or stayed up way too late in the past.

Part of my enjoyment comes from dealing with social anxiety. Instead of worrying over things I can turn my focus onto the page in front of me. It's for similar reasons I enjoy drawing and reading.

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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #10 on: May 30, 2017, 05:32:54 AM »
I love the solo aspect of writing. I am an incredibly antisocial person. :p

That said, sometimes it's really handy to have someone to bounce an idea off, or to decompress about something with. I've been cultivating various support groups recently - the group with whom I'm doing a workshop class, and a put-together group of agented-but-not-published authors online. I also have various old online friends with whom I used to write, whether fanfic or role-playing, who are great for tossing around ideas.

The great thing, for me, about online friends, is that the socialising can occur when I'm up for it, and not otherwise intrude on my working time. Even so, I need to be careful that I'm not going, "Hmm, I might send an email about this to X," because it's easier than just solving the damn problem. Sometimes talking it through is helpful. Sometimes I could just talk it through with my cat, or the wall. The point is that I need to solve it.

But to return to the base point: I'm totally antisocial. Or rather, I'm an introvert; being around people costs me energy, it doesn't give me energy.

Now this sums up my thoughts perfectly. Hats off to @cupiscent:) Most of the time when I had to be around people, it's more out of necessity rather than pure enjoyment, so I would rather prefer to stay by myself and my family and be able to do the hobby that I truly loved.

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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #11 on: May 30, 2017, 06:24:02 PM »
I'm a complete extrovert. I love to ask a co-worker to watch me decorate white boards with my thoughts, even if they have no idea what I'm on about and I may not really care about their opinion.

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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #12 on: May 30, 2017, 06:29:15 PM »
I'm right there with you Jmack. I love interactions, the opposite of Cupiscent's type - I gain and benefit from the energy of those around me. And while I have my own deep thoughts and feelings, I enjoy hearing about others' - they serve as reference points and contrasts, not just on whatever mumbo jumbo the day is tossing at us, but on the deeper things. As I age, I find I have less and less tolerance for the deplorables and those with social shortcomings, but an even greater desire to be in a room with those I enjoy.
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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #13 on: May 30, 2017, 06:49:21 PM »
yeah, me personally, my socialness depends totally on how full my social tank is.  it refills with solitude-homebody activities, but i love getting out and burning all the fuel i've accumulated inside the tank.  alternating between empty and full pretty much describes my life.

that fuel is there to be used, folks!

when it comes to writing, tho, i love the solitary act of creation.  i slurp up all the creative energy around me when i'm bouncing around all day, and redirect it into my story.  love, love, love it.  locking out everything and painting all that life on the page.

so, i suspect if it was just me at home, all by myself all day every day, i'd go crazy.  as it is, since i have a noisy teen/pre-teen household, i guard my solitary writing time ferociously.

pretty sure if i was a full-time writer, i'd have to write in a pub or a coffee shop several times a week.

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Re: Writing and Solitude
« Reply #14 on: May 30, 2017, 09:12:06 PM »
Solitude is not a problem for me, but sometimes loneliness is. They are two different things. When I feel lonely, I have learned to make the effort and reach out to some friends, even though it goes against my introvert instincts. I am quite sure we all need some social interaction from time to time to stay sane, even if some of us need considerably less of it.
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