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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2100 on: February 02, 2018, 08:08:52 PM »
I just got back from two hours spent at happy hour at my favourite watering hole, with a very good friend I've made in the last 1,5 years.

On a related note: I made it back to my apartment with four beers in my gut, uphill, in extremely icy, slippery conditions, without breaking a single bone. Yay!


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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2101 on: February 06, 2018, 11:06:22 AM »
I'm in a long meeting and I'm really annoyed and without patience for the people, and can't concentrate, and argh, what's happening to me? :'(

Edit: I need to change my mindset and just accept I'm having a bad day ::) :-\
(I also want to tell people off)
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2102 on: February 06, 2018, 12:17:32 PM »
I'm in a long meeting and I'm really annoyed and without patience for the people, and can't concentrate, and argh, what's happening to me? :'(

Edit: I need to change my mindset and just accept I'm having a bad day ::) :-\
(I also want to tell people off)

I lost patience in a meeting yesterday and allowed myself to voice my anger. This isn’t a usual thing in our company’s culture. I’m worried I overdid it, and that I really can’t use that “strategy” - at all, or at least very rarely.

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2103 on: February 06, 2018, 12:20:20 PM »
Maybe you can check in an informal setting? Not exactly an apology, but talk with the main person and say you're afraid you were too harsh?
In my past experience, nothing ever is as bad as we imagine...
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2104 on: February 06, 2018, 01:03:45 PM »
I've found that to work. I can be explosive in my temper and just admitting I was out of line has been helpful. That said, if you aren't normally this way, I think it's important to have some idea why you went where you went. Even hockey has a penalty for instigating...
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2105 on: February 06, 2018, 10:30:46 PM »
I'm in a long meeting and I'm really annoyed and without patience for the people, and can't concentrate, and argh, what's happening to me? :'(

Edit: I need to change my mindset and just accept I'm having a bad day ::) :-\
(I also want to tell people off)

Telling people off who deserve it is one of the greatest joys of life.
But yeah, it's hard to do it at work.

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2106 on: February 06, 2018, 10:57:48 PM »
Small update: I'll be getting my autism booklet from the printers next week. And I'll get more than twice the amount of copies I was expecting, for the budget I've built up. Around 1000 copies.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2107 on: February 06, 2018, 11:32:12 PM »
Small update: I'll be getting my autism booklet from the printers next week. And I'll get more than twice the amount of copies I was expecting, for the budget I've built up. Around 1000 copies.

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2108 on: February 13, 2018, 03:26:49 PM »
Well, I have my autism booklet. 1300 copies.

I picked the boxes up this morning and took one straight over to the social offices, who will help get them out there.

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2109 on: February 13, 2018, 04:16:45 PM »
Now you need to plan a TED talk :)
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2110 on: February 13, 2018, 04:17:30 PM »
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2112 on: February 14, 2018, 01:14:31 AM »
I love how the people who talk about just do the job, and don’t worry about your title, office, or pay... are always highly paid executives.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2113 on: February 14, 2018, 01:35:12 AM »
There are executives whose world view is that their success depends on the successful performance of their people, which must be earned through compensation, recognition, and respect. The other 95% do not only not know this, they believe the opposite: your success is dependent upon their being a highly paid executive and you owe them recognition that your compensation is more than adequate and respect flows up, not down.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2114 on: February 14, 2018, 08:10:02 PM »
And there are those who believe you reward for outstanding work is continued employment.
Worked for a couple of those over the years, one got what he deserved after rashly promising what his team were not prepared to deliver.