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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2760 on: July 01, 2019, 06:11:31 PM »
^ I love xia's reply, and it's better than anything I might attempt to say, so I just say this :)
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2761 on: July 01, 2019, 06:56:28 PM »
Just what does one do with the ugly parts of the past?

Face it. Put it behind.

I had a similar nostalgic moment some years ago. I came out a better man for it, though the event itself was painful. I mentally replayed it and picked things I could have done better or simply just let go as I couldn't influence them.

Now that event doesn't bother me. Even if it comes up, I can nod, smile and push it away.

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2762 on: July 01, 2019, 07:37:20 PM »
Seconding what xiagan said, with an appropriate addition from the world of Fantasy.

I recently reread The Earthsea Quartet, and among many other things the books contain the answer of how to deal with our darker side (something that completely passed me by the first time I read it). LeGuin was deep into Taoist philosophy, something that shines through in her books.

Some spoilers for Earthsea Quartet below.

Spoiler for Hiden:
Ged and the shadow are an analogy of us and our dark side: our bad memories, our bad actions. In a foolish act as a young man, he releases the shadow upon the world. Then he ignores it, but that only makes it stronger. Trying to ignore your dark side makes it fester. Then he begins chasing after it. He means to destroy it, but chasing after it only seems to goad it on. Trying to destroy your darkness makes it stronger. But then he recognises the truth: the shadow's true name is Ged; the shadow is him. Once he speaks the shadow's true name, it becomes a part of him again. Accepting that the darkness is there is the only way to have power over it. Seeing it, naming it, accepting it. Moving on, knowing it will always be there, ready to escape again if we let our guard down.

Or that's my interpretation, anyway. I thoroughly look forward to re-reading the books again in another decade or so. Maybe I'll find another new story.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2763 on: July 09, 2019, 08:58:04 AM »
I bought a new pair of shoes the other day. My cats have, of course, taken a liking to the box.  :)

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2764 on: July 11, 2019, 07:53:33 AM »
This came on my Facebook feed

I’m not as bad as this but I can relate to it. Anxiety sucks I hope you know I find it hard to overcome sometimes and to post. I do feel comfortable here.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tfs8Gk4uM8k
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2765 on: July 16, 2019, 04:28:55 AM »
About a month back I left medical school for the second and last time of my life, and now I'm writing a book in my own language about my own struggles and experiences as a medical student abroad. It's helping me really a lot in this long route of recovery from my mental illness and in expressing my pent-up thoughts and feelings. It's my ultimate goal to be able to advise people from the errors I've made, so that they wouldn't have to waste their time and struggle as I have in the past. 

Apologies that I only posted here rarely, and only when I had my own issues. I've always had a lot of trouble opening up to people in the past up until now, and I guess I'm probably learning to express my inner thoughts and feelings more, at least in writing.  :)

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2766 on: July 16, 2019, 08:04:07 AM »
Inky, there's nothing to apologise for!
Every person is different, and while some benefit from sharing, others feel more comfortable on their own (or sharing in talking with a person 'live').

I'm glad you found a way to make sense of your situation - even if it doesn't get published, I bet it will have done you quite good to write it in the first place.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2767 on: Today at 03:11:24 AM »
Thank you so much Scarlet *hugs back* It's only after writing that I realized that despite the fact that I'm too shy and closed up to share my stories verbally, writing it out made me feel much much better. It's a tale I've always wanted to tell to someone, but I haven't found the means until now.