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Title: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 01, 2017, 06:28:52 PM
We've had food, we've had dentists, and so on.
Time for tips on things about the house!

My question:
Most of my towels are now quite hard, not soft and fluffy, even when I use fabric softner and stuff...
I googled, and everywhere I read that the solution is to wash them in white vinegar - but... won't that make them smell really horridly? Is it a special kind of vinegar, or is it really what we use in food? :o

(help, Lady Ty ;))
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on July 01, 2017, 07:03:43 PM
Vinegar has a lot of domestic uses beyond salad dressings - it's an effective deodorizer, anti-microbial (if you eat in questionable restaurants or in Arabian settings - eat the pickles!), germicide, fungicide, and all around-cure-all for many minor issues ranging from crotch-rot to ear infections. I think most advice is to replace your detergent with vinegar, which is a half-cup or so? Anyway, it should all rinse out. If you take the advice to mix it with baking soda, the bicarbonate of the baking soda reacts to form carbonic acid, which decomposes into carbon dioxide and water, which have no scent at all.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 01, 2017, 07:15:31 PM
Thanks!
Now to buy those 2, then... :D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lu Kudzoza on July 01, 2017, 08:17:54 PM
My wife says she's tried washing the towels in vinegar. I asked her if it worked. Her response, "Who knows?"

At the least, it didn't hurt the towels so you might as well give it a try.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 01, 2017, 09:25:14 PM
My wife says she's tried washing the towels in vinegar. I asked her if it worked. Her response, "Who knows?"

At the least, it didn't hurt the towels so you might as well give it a try.
;D
Ok, I won't expect too much.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Quill on July 01, 2017, 09:41:49 PM
My brother swears by this vinegar trick also.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on July 02, 2017, 01:35:06 AM
ls are now quite hard, not soft and fluffy, even when I use fabric softner and stuff...
I googled, and everywhere I read that the solution is to wash them in white vinegar - but... won't that make them smell really horridly? Is it a special kind of vinegar, or is it really what we use in food? :o

(help, Lady Ty ;))
This made me laugh, I am not the fount of all cleaning knowledge SB, I absolutely hate it and only manage any with audio book on my ipod. Then get extra cross vacuuming because I can't hear audiobook. lAlways dreamed of having a housekeeper ;D

I am now doing an experiment especially for you as I have some several scratchy old towels to hand as it is school holidays and Tygrands invade on and off, specially after playing NRL or similar mudbath stuff.

There is so much conflicting advice online but it does centre around vinegar and/or bicarb, but many suggestions contradict others. The main cause of hard towels seems to be a build up of detergent and softener over time, so when we thought we were doing the right thing, we may have been causing the problem.

One thing I did learn long ago is that whatever quantity of detergent/ softener etc etc manufacturers suggest you can halve it and get a perfectly clean result. They are selling you their product, aren't they? ;)

Secondly the vinegar to use is definitely white vinegar, you can probably buy it in 1 litre or 2 litre size somewhere like Sainsburys? Do they  still exist ? Any supermarket.

I put bicarb over plughole of all sinks and wash basins every few weeks and pour on some vinegar and it keeps them clear and clean, and a huge fizzy eruption happens so definitely a good chemical event going on.

If you can line dry outdoors and just finish  off in dryer that is also good as the dryer fluffs up but out doors helps freshness.

I am doing a one off, double wash, strip clean process today using first bicarb in very hot wash then vinegar in very hot rinse and will report later. 8)

Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: xiagan on July 02, 2017, 07:24:50 AM
The question is why do you want your towels to be soft when it is much better for your skin and blood circulation if they are hard? ;)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on July 02, 2017, 08:50:52 AM
The question is why do you want your towels to be soft when it is much better for your skin and blood circulation if they are hard? ;)

OK Mr Spartan xiagan. You and @ScarletBea can discuss that one. I deserve every possible pampering luxury I can beg, borrow or steal nowadays, so no support from me. I expect soft towels, satin sheets and feather-down duvets . ;D ;D ;D

SB I am happy to report that today's experiment did make a difference. Maybe not mind blowing, and the towels will never be as new, but comparing the treated towels to similar untreated ones there is a definite improvement in softness and maybe if I continue to wash like this it will get even better. .

I used no detergent or softener at all, and the towels were moderately dirty so I did a pre-wash, just hot water, then half a cup of bicarb into the main hot wash, let the cycle run through, but put half a cup white vinegar into the final rinse through the softener liquid dispenser. My washer is a front loader, to save water,  so I can't easily interrupt and add things or change the temperatures as I go along. 

If the towels were really bad I would probably have to use some detergent and leave it out other times. Also recommend always using liquid detergents rather than powder.

I cannot believe I am writing this on a Fantasy Forum, sounding like the worst afternoon TV from the 50's, but hope it helps.  ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 02, 2017, 10:14:19 AM
Oh yay! Result!
Thank you SO much ;D
Yeah, it was a big assumption of me, linking food with cleaning, when I actually have 2 very close examples that the 2 don't go hand in hand: my sister's great at cooking, doesn't really care much about cleaning; I'm good at cleaning stuff, but kinda hopeless in the kitchen ::)

The question is why do you want your towels to be soft when it is much better for your skin and blood circulation if they are hard? ;)
I exfoliate regularly, thank you, I don't want it every day :P ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: xiagan on July 02, 2017, 11:50:52 AM
Okay, Bea is excused. :)

The question is why do you want your towels to be soft when it is much better for your skin and blood circulation if they are hard? ;)

OK Mr Spartan xiagan. You and @ScarletBea can discuss that one. I deserve every possible pampering luxury I can beg, borrow or steal nowadays, so no support from me. I expect soft towels, satin sheets and feather-down duvets . ;D ;D ;D
Are you saying that you don't take cold showers in the morning?!?  :o
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 02, 2017, 12:11:53 PM
Now you sound like my dad!!!
(I believe he takes cold showers between May and October, hehe)

Note to self: do not give nice comfy things to xiagan, ever 8)

If you can line dry outdoors and just finish  off in dryer that is also good as the dryer fluffs up but out doors helps freshness.
I forgot to say that drying outdoors isn't an option for me, but I do put them in a chair or horse-drier in front of an open window (if the weather's nice).
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Magnus Hedén on July 02, 2017, 01:44:39 PM
I end my showers with about 30 seconds of the coldest water. I take deep breaths and stay calm. It results in a nice endorphin rush that clears my mind and freshens me up.

Then I dry off with rough towels because I can't be bothered to care about domestic stuff and I don't mind either way.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: J.R. Darewood on July 03, 2017, 10:24:08 AM
I think the solution is to sneak into fancy hotels and steal some new towels every couple of months.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Henry Dale on July 03, 2017, 10:27:05 AM
1. Donate the things you want washed to a second hand store.
2. They have it dry cleaned before they sell it.
3. Buy back your own stuff. Cheaper than actual dry cleaning.
4. Profit!  $€¥
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: J.R. Darewood on July 03, 2017, 10:31:10 AM
Henry you're a genius...
I'm not sure we have the same quality standards at second hand stores where I live, however
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 08, 2017, 05:31:17 PM
Lady Ty, I tried it.
One wash at 90 C with vinegar, then a wash right away with bicarbonate of soda at 90 C, then drying it with the wind coming through open floor-to-ceiling doors.

It did not work, they look and feel exactly the same as before >:( >:(
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on July 09, 2017, 12:42:47 AM
I actually did that the other way round, bicarb in wash, white vinegar in rinse. Then line dry and finish off in dryer. Can only say it was noticeable difference for me, but not massive. Maybe go back to normal wash with softener in rinse, but use the bicarb/vinegar every 4 or 5 washes to clear the residue. Thats all I can suggest.
TBH, I like Bradley's second last  suggestion best, that is sure to work. But prison towels will be really, really rough. :-\
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 26, 2017, 11:38:16 AM
Any tips for viewing houses?
 :)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Hedin on July 26, 2017, 01:29:38 PM
When we bought our current house we spent a lot of time on realtor apps looking around the area we wanted within our price range to get a sense of what was available and what we liked and didn't like.  From there we figured out what features we really wanted and what we were willing to compromise on.  After that just go looking.  We did three sessions and probably looked at 20 houses total when we got ours (it was one of the first ones in the third session that we looked at).  When we looked at the house we have now it wasn't an angels shining down from heaven moment but at the same time just looking around it felt right for us.  Just have patience, our realtor said most people look at around 20 houses but she had some fall in love with the first house they looked at and others it look 30-40 houses.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Eclipse on July 26, 2017, 03:10:50 PM
Find a room you can turn into a personal library.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 26, 2017, 03:14:40 PM
it wasn't an angels shining down from heaven moment but at the same time just looking around it felt right for us.
Thanks, I think this will be key.

Find a room you can turn into a personal library.
Oh, I so want this, yes ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on July 26, 2017, 06:02:21 PM
I'm sort of an expert at that. Here's my list of things to consider:

Features: No idea what you like, but I always start with:
1. Location. Seek a home with multiple routes to most of the areas where you go. In the UK, proximity to bus/tube would be key I think. I have had good experience getting into a balanced zone where multiple routes are within 2 minutes, even though that means nothing is super-close. This allows freedom to avoid construction, accidents, etc. over time.
2. Stairs. I avoid 'em. Unless there's a lift.
3. Look past cosmetics, which you can change easily, to things you can't change: space, cabinetry/storage, etc. If you're a homebody, light and spaces are key. Some like many small rooms. Others, like me, prefer fewer but larger rooms.
4. Separation. If you live alone, might not be an issue, but I like rooms that are separate (3 kids will do that :) )
5. Economy. I have always bought homes that had cosmetic failings - because I knew they drove down the price, and I could fix those cheaply and easily over time - more value over time. Most don't look that far ahead.

This stuff is about quality of home, not features:
1. Note the things that aren't there. I bought a house once that had no hall closet for coats. We didn't notice because that's not a major thing that jumps up.
2. Look at heat and air - turn em on and see how they run!
3. Look for signs of leaks/plumbing problems along base of walls, around plumbing, joints of floor/ceiling. Bubbling paint and small patches of fresh paint, mold, etc., indicate potential issues.
4. Be thorough. Open all closets, cabinets, dishwasher, etc. Run appliances - disposal, dishwasher, etc., to be sure they work.
5. Look at fuse box for signs of shorts - charring, etc.
6. Check gutters to ensure they're hooked up. Look for signs of water pooling outside. It should flow away. Pooling means gutters/drains clogged or not hooked up.
7. Check door and window locks to ensure they work.
8. Check stairway carpets to ensure they're properly affixed to stairs and aren't going to get loose and trip your visitors ;) Check seams between pieces of carpet, usually at the border of rooms to ensure they're properly affixed to the floor.
9. Safety. Make sure stairs have no loose boards, balconies, railings, etc. sound. Test smoke and fire alarms. Look at the building (if in a large one) fire records and elevator maintenance records. In the US these must be available. If dated in the 80s, move on :)

If you are using an agent - tell them your dad is the most anal reterntive man in the world and he's looking at everything in excruciating detail before you commit - they won't want to waste their time and will skip the places they know damned well suck and have problems.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Arry on July 26, 2017, 06:18:30 PM
I'd vote for hiring an inspector to find all the quality issues. :) They are trained to know what to look for and usually know of things to check you might not think of.

Good luck and have fun! :) House hunting is fun and stressful at the same time.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 26, 2017, 07:07:27 PM
Thanks, those are mostly good ideas (some not applicable and others are for the second viewing).

Arry, definitely, and here in the UK we always have to have a basic survey anyway, but I'll do a more detailed one.

Summary of day 1:
Place 1 --> potential, but kinda indiferent
Place 2 --> nope, not for me

General rethorical question/surprises:
* I thought all houses would have a place for a dishwasher, especially if you've redone the kitchen relatively recently
* Why must one of the bedrooms always be. so. damn. small??
 ::)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Hedin on July 27, 2017, 01:13:35 AM
Oh looking at houses brings out the inner architect in me. I was constantly wondering why they did something a certain way when it was obvious to me that another way was clearly better. I'm sure most of the answers were due to water/electrical/air/etc considerations but at the same time I felt like I could have found a better solution.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: J.R. Darewood on July 27, 2017, 10:11:08 AM
Here's my list:

1) can I afford it?
2) is it close to work?
3) is it close to gym and groceries?
4) are there cockroaches?

Consequently I live in a closet with half a range and no oven and a shower that barely fits one person, but hey it works.  And there's not *too* many cockroaches.

I need to win the lottery so I can one day live in places like you guys...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 27, 2017, 10:40:55 AM
^ Bradley ;D

Oh looking at houses brings out the inner architect in me. I was constantly wondering why they did something a certain way when it was obvious to me that another way was clearly better. I'm sure most of the answers were due to water/electrical/air/etc considerations but at the same time I felt like I could have found a better solution.
Same here. Inner architect and inner interior decorator too, hehe, although I *can* do something with the latter.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: m3mnoch on July 27, 2017, 03:24:46 PM
funny.  we're actually house-hunting too, bea!

so, we started looking because our boys are just getting too big and noisy for the place we're in right now.  it's got a tiny yard, so any running and chasing they do consists of in-the-house-out-of-the-house-in-the-house-out-of-the-house.  and the inside is very open-shared-space, so when our tween-to-teen boys are yelling back and forth playing video games or whatever, it's *really* loud and obnoxious.

anyway, the point is, based on our current family status, we're looking for specific features.  we've even prioritized them:

1) divided living space.  basically a game room or something where we can shut the door and let them play.  preferably close to their rooms.  in our current house, our option is to convert our open loft that's right above the living/kitchen area into a noisy central place.

2) a large yard.  when they're not in their in their inside entertainment area, we can punt them outdoors.

3) a guest room.  we get half a dozen visitors a year who come stay with us.  we don't really want them sleeping on the couch.

4) a great kitchen.  we spend most of our waking hours in and around the kitchen.

5) a good investment.  we're nixing houses we see in neighborhoods where we won't be able to at least recoup the money for any improvements we make on the house.  ideally, it'd be a place with room to rise 20% in value over the next 10 years.

so, yeah.  as you can imagine, it's hard to find a place in san diego that meets all our requirements, but is still priced within our budget.  we've visited dozens of properties and browsed hundreds more on the internet.  out of those, we've found 2.  and in both of which, we were out-bid by some bastard throwing more money at the owners.

the overall theme we're finding is if we buy a cheaper place and drop a ton of money in renovations, we price ourselves out of the neighborhood and it's a crappy investment.  if we find a perfect place that needs hardly any work, we don't have the money to win a bidding war.  that leaves us with the option of buying an expensive place nobody wants in a nice neighborhood everyone wants, and figuring out where to find the cash for a remodel to make it a house *we* want.

oh, and since nobody wants a buyer with a contingency on selling their house first (that's how we lost out on the bidding war for the first house), we've had to sell our house first to get the money to buy a new one.  so, long story short, we're in escrow right now and are going to be "homeless" after we close next week.  (imagine us, with the requirements above, living in a two-bedroom apartment . . . yay.)

so, my advice bea:
- make a list of the features you want based on what fits within your life.  (near a park, an extra room for a library, a guest room for visitors, etc.)
- look in a price range you can afford, or cheaper so you still have a renovation budget. 
- keep looking until you find one, but don't fall in love with it.  bid on it, expect to be outbid, then repeat if you are. 
- don't compromise on the features you want, but be super-flexible in every other aspect.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Hedin on July 27, 2017, 04:31:33 PM
oh, and since nobody wants a buyer with a contingency on selling their house first (that's how we lost out on the bidding war for the first house), we've had to sell our house first to get the money to buy a new one.  so, long story short, we're in escrow right now and are going to be "homeless" after we close next week.  (imagine us, with the requirements above, living in a two-bedroom apartment . . . yay.)

We probably ended up in our current house because of contingency issues.  Saw one we really liked, smaller bedrooms and living spaces than we have now but it had the perfect basement (we don't have a basement), square footage was about the same just in different areas.  We wanted to put an offer in but the seller wouldn't do a contingency. A few days later we accepted an offer on our house and reached back to the first house and they were in a multiple offer situation and we would probably have to go to the top of our set budget (which was lower than what we were approved for) to get it.  We went out looking that day to see a few more houses before deciding what to do about the other house and saw the house we're in now.  If the first house had accepted the contingency or we had sold our house just a couple days sooner (and ours was only on the market for 10 days) we would probably be in that other house.   
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 27, 2017, 04:32:54 PM
We call that a "chain" in the UK, and it's very normal.
Since I'm renting, I don't have that problem, but let's see what happens to the house I potentially choose...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: m3mnoch on July 27, 2017, 04:43:55 PM
oh, and since nobody wants a buyer with a contingency on selling their house first (that's how we lost out on the bidding war for the first house), we've had to sell our house first to get the money to buy a new one.  so, long story short, we're in escrow right now and are going to be "homeless" after we close next week.  (imagine us, with the requirements above, living in a two-bedroom apartment . . . yay.)

We probably ended up in our current house because of contingency issues.  Saw one we really liked, smaller bedrooms and living spaces than we have now but it had the perfect basement (we don't have a basement), square footage was about the same just in different areas.  We wanted to put an offer in but the seller wouldn't do a contingency. A few days later we accepted an offer on our house and reached back to the first house and they were in a multiple offer situation and we would probably have to go to the top of our set budget (which was lower than what we were approved for) to get it.  We went out looking that day to see a few more houses before deciding what to do about the other house and saw the house we're in now.  If the first house had accepted the contingency or we had sold our house just a couple days sooner (and ours was only on the market for 10 days) we would probably be in that other house.

exactly.

i feel like it's only gotten worse.  i feel like all we hear is "seller won't take a contingency offer".

who are these people who just have that kind of money laying around in a place where the median (not even average!!) home price is well north of half a million dollars (https://www.zillow.com/san-diego-ca/home-values/)?

and, how do i befriend them?
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 27, 2017, 07:01:26 PM
Summary day 2:

Place 3 --> nope, too small
Place 4 --> great house, really, but the area is too isolated and a bit hard to get to :( but def a contender... maybe
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on July 28, 2017, 04:56:19 AM
who are these people who just have that kind of money laying around in a place where the median (not even average!!) home price is well north of half a million dollars (https://www.zillow.com/san-diego-ca/home-values/)?

and, how do i befriend them?

Reminds of the expression "I either want LESS CORRUPTION - or MORE OPPORTUNITY to participate!!"
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on July 28, 2017, 05:49:20 AM
I have supposedly been clearing out and getting rid of belongings to downsize from my family home to a manageable small apartment in an area I don't need car for shopping etc. Have been half heartedly trying to do this for last couple of years but it is hard to leave. Now at the point I physically cannot manage and have to get my act together soon.

Trouble is the small apartments where I would prefer to live cost as much or more than my home is likely to bring. I have huge garden and small 3 bed house, but biggest demands are for inner city or town centre with no garden and the prices are ridiculous, but that is what I need now. I am also not in any position, nor do I want, to take on another mortgage because it took most of my working life and a large lump of my final pension to pay for this house. I have not made a huge capital gain because I re-mortgaged several times to get us through unavoidable major important expenses.

So to everyone stuck in the contingency loop I understand and sympathise, it is a frustrating position to be in and so easy to get someone else beat you with ready cash when you think you have the perfect house. Glad you found what you wanted @Hedin and all good luck @m3mnoch. @ScarletBea, you are in the best position of all to buy, but it is often hard to find what is just right, although not sure how long you have before you need to move out and urgency doesn't help.

 
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Just have patience, our realtor said most people look at around 20 houses but she had some fall in love with the first house they looked at and others it look 30-40 houses.

Hedin, this is right, you find one that is just that bit more appealing, I wwent to view about 12 houses, back in 1979 with no Allhomes or internet search, and this home was a desperate last minute view, late one afternoon and it immediately felt like the the right one. We have loved it as a family for all these years and it couldn't have suited us better. ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 01, 2017, 09:55:34 AM
Just 1 comment:

How can a house not have a single wall where you can put shelves??
Yesterday I viewed one that was quite nice, but on the only straight wall in the lounge, that didn't have the window or the fireplace, it had a massive radiator ::)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 04, 2017, 05:34:38 PM
@Lady_Ty is the "white vinegar" we talked before the same as "white wine vinegar"?
That's all I could find - and I'm afraid the last time I used "distilled malt vinegar", it was the only clear one in the shop... :-[
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on August 04, 2017, 10:26:29 PM
@Lady_Ty is the "white vinegar" we talked before the same as "white wine vinegar"?
That's all I could find - and I'm afraid the last time I used "distilled malt vinegar", it was the only clear one in the shop... :-[

No, ScarletBea, White Wine vinegar is too expensive to use for washing, it is for marinades or dressings or adding a special dash of flavour. Mary Berry seems to splash it around all over the place.  ;D
Plain White vinegar is just diluted acetic acid and should be readily available in a large supermarket or even a hardware. I buy it in 2 litre containers for use in cleaning, and pickling. Sorry I dont know your food/general chain supermarket names. Do you have Sainsburys still or Waitrose? Aldi?
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: J.R. Darewood on August 05, 2017, 01:12:12 AM

I wash my clothes in liquid gold and dragon tears.

Standards.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 05, 2017, 10:05:49 AM
@Lady_Ty is the "white vinegar" we talked before the same as "white wine vinegar"?
That's all I could find - and I'm afraid the last time I used "distilled malt vinegar", it was the only clear one in the shop... :-[

No, ScarletBea, White Wine vinegar is too expensive to use for washing, it is for marinades or dressings or adding a special dash of flavour. Mary Berry seems to splash it around all over the place.  ;D
Plain White vinegar is just diluted acetic acid and should be readily available in a large supermarket or even a hardware. I buy it in 2 litre containers for use in cleaning, and pickling. Sorry I dont know your food/general chain supermarket names. Do you have Sainsburys still or Waitrose? Aldi?
Thanks, I figured it was the case, when I saw the price ;D
And yep, I looked in Sainsbury's, and it's quite a big one. I'll now start exploring the others (Asda, Tesco, Lidl).
(no Waitrose near me, that's for posh people, usually in the south ;) )


I wash my clothes in liquid gold and dragon tears.

Standards.
;D ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 05, 2017, 04:13:49 PM
Oh!
I just viewed one and it felt right, and now I'm afraid I won't get it. I don't want to jump blindly, but there were 2 more viewings after me - I told the agent I was interested, and please get me a second viewing...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 07, 2017, 10:10:23 PM
Second viewing of that one tomorrow :D

None of my friends are free to go... oh well, I know I'll decide on my own anyway...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 10, 2017, 09:42:36 PM
 >:( >:( :'(

I never expected the process to be so complicated and stressful... watching Location Location Location and other property programs on TV makes it look so easy ::)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on August 10, 2017, 10:56:33 PM
TV makes hard things look easy, easy things look hard, and beautiful people look average. I was on TV once back in the 90s and they made me look mean  8)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 11, 2017, 01:08:39 PM
I was on TV once back in the 90s and they made me look mean  8)
Visual proof or it didn't happen! ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Hedin on August 11, 2017, 01:59:20 PM
TV makes hard things look easy, easy things look hard, and beautiful people look average. I was on TV once back in the 90s and they made me look mean  8)

I was also on national TV (it was either 60 Minutes or Dateline but I've never been able to find video online) once in the 90s.  I was biting my lip while looking extremely awkward in a way that most 11-12 year old boys are.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 26, 2017, 05:11:31 PM
I might have found my place... (second time lucky?)
I had a second viewing today, taking my friend with me for a fresh pair of eyes.

I'm just afraid to make a decision :-\
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 28, 2017, 02:48:44 PM
argh - sorry
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 29, 2017, 04:24:08 PM
I made an offer :o :D :o

I have to wait until tomorrow morning to know if it's been accepted, though...

(and I like myself a bit more, now)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 30, 2017, 11:50:02 AM
I made an offer :o :D :o

I have to wait until tomorrow morning to know if it's been accepted, though...

(and I like myself a bit more, now)

My offer was accepted :D :D :D
*really happy*

(back to my work meeting now...)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on August 31, 2017, 05:41:47 PM
I made an offer :o :D :o

I have to wait until tomorrow morning to know if it's been accepted, though...

(and I like myself a bit more, now)

My offer was accepted :D :D :D
*really happy*

(back to my work meeting now...)

Woo Hoo!!!!!
We need pictures now.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on August 31, 2017, 06:14:15 PM
I'll give you pics when the contract has been exchanged - I don't want to jinx it ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on September 01, 2017, 03:09:35 AM
It would be hilarious good fun to plan Hobbit-style housewarming, where 12 of us show up, one by one, completely unannounced for dinner. Jmack arrives last, wearing a pointy hat and smoking a pipe :)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on September 01, 2017, 11:21:08 PM
It would be hilarious good fun to plan Hobbit-style housewarming, where 12 of us show up, one by one, completely unannounced for dinner. Jmack arrives last, wearing a pointy hat and smoking a pipe :)

"What am I smoking? It's, um, an herb. Just a very nice herb."
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on September 02, 2017, 12:22:14 AM
Congrats
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on September 20, 2017, 04:31:13 PM
Just got confirmation of mortgage acceptance :D
Everything is moving along fine... almost seems too good to be true...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on September 20, 2017, 09:26:39 PM
Just got confirmation of mortgage acceptance :D
Everything is moving along fine... almost seems too good to be true...

Snoopy Dance!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on September 20, 2017, 09:59:17 PM
Snoopy Dance!!!!!!!!
(http://gifimage.net/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/snoopy-dance-gif-18.gif)

 ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on September 20, 2017, 10:18:54 PM
When is hobbit party moving day?
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on September 21, 2017, 01:25:39 AM
Wonderful news, very happy all worked out at last  ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 09, 2017, 05:24:37 PM
I signed a bunch of paperwork at the solicitor today :D

Next step, exchange contracts 8)

(talk of moving date 30 Oct!!!)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: xiagan on October 09, 2017, 09:58:39 PM
I signed a bunch of paperwork at the solicitor today :D

Next step, exchange contracts 8)

(talk of moving date 30 Oct!!!)
Tell us something about your new home! Is it a haunted house? Does it have a library? Have you met any neighbors yet?
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 09, 2017, 10:18:09 PM
* I hope it's not haunted!
* Not really, but space for my shelves and more! I don't want to hide my books in the top floor hehe
* Nope! I haven't seen it in over a month, I'll try to go back and do some measuring after the contract...

To be honest, I'm just so tired and stressed that I don't want to change anything at first, just move and calm down, but actually I'm trying to sell some bits of furniture and buy new for the new place...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on October 10, 2017, 01:40:20 PM
... but actually I'm trying to sell some bits of furniture and buy new for the new place...

Suggestion: Sell. Move. Buy - and have new furniture delivered. Less to move and worry about :)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 10, 2017, 03:18:16 PM
Oh, definitely!
Even if I sleep on the sofa for a few nights hehe
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: m3mnoch on October 10, 2017, 04:01:27 PM
I signed a bunch of paperwork at the solicitor today :D

Next step, exchange contracts 8)

(talk of moving date 30 Oct!!!)

yay!  so excited, bea!!  congrats!
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: RobertS on October 10, 2017, 04:10:56 PM
* I hope it's not haunted!
* Not really, but space for my shelves and more! I don't want to hide my books in the top floor hehe
* Nope! I haven't seen it in over a month, I'll try to go back and do some measuring after the contract...

To be honest, I'm just so tired and stressed that I don't want to change anything at first, just move and calm down, but actually I'm trying to sell some bits of furniture and buy new for the new place...

Don't worry about the haunting, you can get that out with vinegar and bicarbonate of soda. :)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: tebakutis on October 10, 2017, 04:24:17 PM
* I hope it's not haunted!

Side note: Is it wrong that I have always had a strong desire, just for once, to either move into or spend a night at a house that is actually haunted? Like, haunted to the point where I would actually have a paranormal experience, and see pretty much straightforward proof that a ghost or other entity was involved.

While this might be scary, it would also be proof (to me, at least) that we continue to exist after we die, and there is afterlife. I feel like having that evidence would be comforting, in a sense.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: RobertS on October 10, 2017, 05:43:05 PM
* I hope it's not haunted!
While this might be scary, it would also be proof (to me, at least) that we continue to exist after we die, and there is afterlife. I feel like having that evidence would be comforting, in a sense.
Sadly it would only be proof that there exists phenomenon and intelligence outside of conventional proof.
If there are beings that exist on the margins of society and have valid fears about what humans would do if their existence were revealed, I think they would happily fake evidence that they were what you expected and not what they were.They might even be entertained by it all. These beings could even be incorporeal. This would still be no proof of an afterlife.

"Dude, they are having a seance!"
"Not a bunch of creepy goth humans. I seriously long for the days when we were considered house gods and ignored apart from offerings."
"That's better than the silly exorcists."
"No this is great, I can make the guy who used to live here seem like a total creeper."
"He kind of was."
"He kept the roof repaired and he was mostly quiet. What more do you want from a human? Besides I am kind of worried about our making him look bad. Don't speak ill of the dead. What if there really are ghosts?"
"Then we creep the humans out till they bring in an exorcist and see if that does any good."
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: tebakutis on October 11, 2017, 08:44:07 PM
* I hope it's not haunted!
While this might be scary, it would also be proof (to me, at least) that we continue to exist after we die, and there is afterlife. I feel like having that evidence would be comforting, in a sense.
Sadly it would only be proof that there exists phenomenon and intelligence outside of conventional proof.
If there are beings that exist on the margins of society and have valid fears about what humans would do if their existence were revealed, I think they would happily fake evidence that they were what you expected and not what they were.They might even be entertained by it all. These beings could even be incorporeal. This would still be no proof of an afterlife.

But wouldn't proof that there are layers of existence beyond what we can see at least tangentially suggest there is some sort of continued existence after death? Either way, I think having a real paranormal experience would change one's outlook on life.

As a rational person, I know the idea of there being an afterlife is almost certainly false - but as a human trying to deal with the fact that life is finite (for me, my loved ones, and even strangers) I find the idea of life after death comforting, and would rather cling to it (after all, I won't know if I'm wrong) than abandon it entirely. Regardless of the reality, my life will be happier thinking there's something beyond what we experience.

I'd even be satisfied with my (somewhat comical, but also sincere) belief that life is the biggest MMORPG ever created. :0
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: RobertS on October 11, 2017, 10:28:06 PM
But wouldn't proof that there are layers of existence beyond what we can see at least tangentially suggest there is some sort of continued existence after death? Either way, I think having a real paranormal experience would change one's outlook on life.

As a rational person, I know the idea of there being an afterlife is almost certainly false - but as a human trying to deal with the fact that life is finite (for me, my loved ones, and even strangers) I find the idea of life after death comforting, and would rather cling to it (after all, I won't know if I'm wrong) than abandon it entirely. Regardless of the reality, my life will be happier thinking there's something beyond what we experience.

I'd even be satisfied with my (somewhat comical, but also sincere) belief that life is the biggest MMORPG ever created. :0

Revelation is an interesting thing. Most people edit the extraordinary from their memories within 24 hours. If you do witness and hold onto the exceptional, you cannot really share your new awareness. The logic, wisdom and humor that you extrapolate from the experience can be shared. The fantastic story can be shared but the nuances and truths will remain personal. What brings you to tears when you contemplate it, may, to another be as silly a story as they could imagine and no real excuse for such extreme emotion.

Like the McGurk effect demonstrates, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-lN8vWm3m0 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-lN8vWm3m0) you cannot entirely trust your perceptions or mine.

We all live in a fantasy world. We perceive things through organic wiring designed by odd, ancient and conflicting processes. We interpret these bits of data with an organic computer that floats inside the bone case that grew with it. Then we call the result, understanding and reality.

Yet with all of that, I can listen to music written in a time far from mine and be overwhelmed by the combination of noises that someone else put together. I can feel emotions that another man intended me to feel. There is a truth in this despite an absence of rationality.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on October 11, 2017, 11:27:11 PM
I'd even be satisfied with my (somewhat comical, but also sincere) belief that life is the biggest MMORPG ever created. :0

I suspect if you are right it is The Gods that are the players and men only the CGI characters.  ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: J.R. Darewood on October 12, 2017, 09:12:24 AM
* I hope it's not haunted!

Side note: Is it wrong that I have always had a strong desire, just for once, to either move into or spend a night at a house that is actually haunted? Like, haunted to the point where I would actually have a paranormal experience, and see pretty much straightforward proof that a ghost or other entity was involved.

While this might be scary, it would also be proof (to me, at least) that we continue to exist after we die, and there is afterlife. I feel like having that evidence would be comforting, in a sense.

I don't generally tell people this because they'll think I'm crazy, but I've had legit ghosts before. Twice. For reals.

And I also once went to a seance in Niger where people were getting possessed.  Like really possessed.  Convulsing, foam pouring out of their mouths, speaking tongues to crazy drums possessed.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on October 12, 2017, 11:12:44 AM
I’m fascinated by the type of thing you’re describing in Niger. I experienced the U.S. version when I was 16 and had a born again experience in a fundamentalist church. My body was swept by electricity, I felt that I could see every atom in the universe, every muscle was rigid - and it all started when the pastor set hands on my hand and called for Jesus to save me.

It’s a strange thing to look back on. It was real, in the sense that it did happen to me. But I explain it to myself these days as something very human and brain chemistry-related. Then other times, I wonder.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 12, 2017, 11:17:38 AM
Little hand-held taser? ;)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on October 12, 2017, 11:39:18 AM
Little hand-held taser? ;)

Damn. I knew the dude behind me in that church was acting suspiciously!
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: tebakutis on October 12, 2017, 06:55:36 PM
I don't generally tell people this because they'll think I'm crazy, but I've had legit ghosts before. Twice. For reals.

Dude you can't say that and not expand! I love ghost stories. Tell me more. No judgment, just interested.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 14, 2017, 04:36:49 PM
I just put the ads for the furniture I want to sell on the Preloved site.
Tomorrow I might add them to Gumtree too.
It's collection only, so none of you could buy, even if interested :)
(does it say something that I still have the ikea manuals? :-[)

I also entered the Virgin Media shop to ask about the bundle costs, and came out with a pre-contract (special deal, free installation). It seems it's bye bye Sky, this is cheaper and with more channels!
(I'm just going to miss the last season of Game of Thrones because it doesn't have Sky Atlantic! How will I be able to watch it? :o)

Things are moving!
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: J.R. Darewood on October 14, 2017, 10:08:25 PM
I don't generally tell people this because they'll think I'm crazy, but I've had legit ghosts before. Twice. For reals.

Dude you can't say that and not expand! I love ghost stories. Tell me more. No judgment, just interested.

Sooo one of them involved an old haunted 1800s ranch with a super heavy table repeatedly sliding all the way across a level room to a certain spot, bats, human vertebrate in the basement, a blood moon, a mosquito swarm, and nightly nightmares.  Another time (idk if this counts) I had a dream my great aunt was sitting with me in a dark theater and we ignored the movie and had a really nice, intimate conversation and when the lights came on she was dead, when I woke up i found out she had died in her sleep that night.

The other one was in my old place in an enormous artists loft around my birthday (which falls near Samhain).  For 3 days a ghost made me tea.The first day I was up till 3am working on an article for publication, all my roomates were out of town, and I heard "hssssssssss!" I walked into the kitchen and the teapot was boiling.  The range was turned off tho.  I lifted it up, and the plate beneath was super hot.  So I moved it to the other side and went back to work.  A few minutes later "hsssssssss!"  The other side was boiling too!  I poured myself peppermint tea (my favorite) and it stopped.  I looked around the loft and there was no one but me.  The second day around 1am I was washing dishes and it started doing it right behind me, like right in front of me.  I moved it to the other side, and it did it again.  I poured myself tea and it stopped.  I told all my friends and they just laughed at me and said I was crazy or drunk or something.  Finally the third day we were celebrating my birthday and going from a bar to an afterparty in a warehouse.  Me and my friend Isaac, dropped by my loft to grab some alcohol around 2:30am.  Somehow I knew it was going to do it right then so I said, wait, Isaac, watch, the ghost is going to boil me tea.  He just looked at me like I was nuts.  Then the teapot started boiling.  And he was like "HOLY SHIT".  Then I took it off the hot plate and put it on the cool one and said, "Watch, it's going to boil on this side too."  And it did.  Isaac was freaking out.  then I poured myself tea.

Once my birthday was over, it never did it again.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 14, 2017, 10:23:26 PM
That tea-making ghost is really weird :o
Maybe they were a butler/maid during their lives ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on October 14, 2017, 10:35:59 PM
Quote
Sooo one of them involved an old haunted 1800s ranch with a super heavy table repeatedly sliding all the way across a level room to a certain spot, bats, human vertebrate in the basement, a blood moon, a mosquito swarm, and nightly nightmares.

Calling @xiagan.
If we ever have a ghosts month in the contest, Bradley has us dead to rights already.  ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on October 15, 2017, 12:54:13 AM
I just put the ads for the furniture I want to sell on the Preloved site.
Tomorrow I might add them to Gumtree too.
Things are moving!

ScarletBea when I had quite a lot to get rid of, some free, others very reasonable, I found that if someone came for one thing they would make offers for quite few other items. If you are ready to strike a 'package bargain' may help get rid of things more quickly. Also had a stack of unwanted smaller items like china, glass, kitchen gadgets etc on a table that TBH I would have sent to charity shops later, but people made offers for some of those as well.

Good luck, things are getting very exciting but I know it is also nerve wracking with so much to do.  ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 17, 2017, 01:20:25 PM
Thanks, I've written on the ads that deals can be made if they buy the full set (for example bed + bedside tables + drawers).

I've just transferred the deposit to the solicitor *gulp* so much money :o
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: tebakutis on October 17, 2017, 06:34:36 PM
I don't generally tell people this because they'll think I'm crazy, but I've had legit ghosts before. Twice. For reals.

Dude you can't say that and not expand! I love ghost stories. Tell me more. No judgment, just interested.

Sooo one of them involved an old haunted 1800s ranch with a super heavy table repeatedly sliding all the way across a level room to a certain spot, bats, human vertebrate in the basement, a blood moon, a mosquito swarm, and nightly nightmares.  Another time (idk if this counts) I had a dream my great aunt was sitting with me in a dark theater and we ignored the movie and had a really nice, intimate conversation and when the lights came on she was dead, when I woke up i found out she had died in her sleep that night.

I had something similar once, but not with a human. When I was a kid I had a dream about my grandmother's dog, Gemini (I loved that dog) where I was playing with her outside our house. Once we were done playing Gemini said goodbye, and it felt like we were seeing each other for the last time. A couple of days later I found out Gemini passed away the day before I had the dream. Either it was a crazy coincidence, or I picked up on something (subconsciously) I saw my Mom do or say (maybe talking to my grandmother?) and my unconscious figured it out. Either way, weird!

The other one was in my old place in an enormous artists loft around my birthday (which falls near Samhain).  For 3 days a ghost made me tea.The first day I was up till 3am working on an article for publication, all my roomates were out of town, and I heard "hssssssssss!" I walked into the kitchen and the teapot was boiling.  The range was turned off tho.  I lifted it up, and the plate beneath was super hot.  So I moved it to the other side and went back to work.  A few minutes later "hsssssssss!"  The other side was boiling too!  I poured myself peppermint tea (my favorite) and it stopped.  I looked around the loft and there was no one but me. 

So wait! I have questions.

Did you already have a teapot sitting on the stove? Was there already tea and water in it? Did you plan to boil tea later and it started boiling before you were ready?

Also, I can share one weird story from when I was a teenager (15). A girl I dated for a couple of weeks when I was 14 (my first date, actually!) claimed to have a teenage ghost (boy) living in her room. She said he got angry (jealous?) sometimes when she had boys over. She lived in an older run-down house.

Anyway, one night we were hanging out on her couch, watching TV, and she mentioned the boy (ghost) had come around again. She could feel him when he was present. I thought she was screwing with me, but she told me to talk to him and I'd see he was real. So she asked him to open the door to her room, which was in sight by the TV and already open, but stationary.

Lo and behold, the door swings open (toward us) by a foot or so. Funny, right, but coincidental. So at her urging, I ask the "ghost" to close the door. It then swings closed by a foot, almost to slamming (but doesn't). More weird. Then I ask him to open it, and it swings open again, toward us, by about the same amount. At that point I got freaked out enough I stopped asking the door to do things.

Looking back, the only other person in the house at the time was her grandmother, who lived alone (she lived with her grandmother full time, so I'm not sure where her parents were) and as far as I knew, her grandmother was asleep at the time. So, unless her sixty year old grandmother decided to hide in her room, out of sight, and screw with me by swinging the door open and closed in a way I couldn't see (like with a string or something?) I have no way to explain how the door was doing that.

Swinging one way would make sense, but swinging both ways is harder to explain. A draft drawing the door open and closed could explain how it swung both ways, but I can't explain how it was timed so perfectly with our requests (didn't open or close until we *asked* the ghost to open or close it). Still don't really have an explanation for it to this day.

The only thing I can think of is that the girl I was dating was eager for attention (whens she broke up with me two weeks later, I found out she was dating two other guys for the weeks we dated and didn't tell me ... typical high school drama). But she was definitely at the stage where boys were interesting but she was playing around with her options. So, maybe she had some elaborate system to swing the door open and closed, which she could use from the couch while she was sitting in my lap, without me noticing...

Yeah. I got nothing.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 18, 2017, 06:17:57 PM
Sorry for going on about this, but this is it: the house is officially mine now ;D ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on October 18, 2017, 08:54:15 PM
Pix please Ms. Scarlet
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on October 19, 2017, 01:00:10 AM
Sorry for going on about this, but this is it: the house is officially mine now ;D ;D

Yay!!!
When you leave your apartment, will that be Scexit? Or Beatrexit? Or...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: J.R. Darewood on October 19, 2017, 04:28:09 AM
Sorry for going on about this, but this is it: the house is officially mine now ;D ;D

Yay!!!
When you leave your apartment, will that be Scexit? Or Beatrexit? Or...

@ScarletBea
Congrats!!!!!!!!!

Ok @tebakutis

Did you already have a teapot sitting on the stove? Was there already tea and water in it?

I make myself tea throughout the day and just leave the remaining water in the pot, refilling as needed. I had no specific plans to make tea right then that's just the most convenient place for my lazy ass to keep the pot. It sat there on its own all day. Just chilling till the wee hours of the night.

It may have been a ghost, but maybe it was the Santa Muerte bc it was close to día de los muertos and I had lit a candle to her and I've heard she likes water offerings and people believe bubbles in water means she's listening to you. Just heard that a few days ago.

Haha I keep picturing your GF and her grandma conspiring to prank you!
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Eclipse on October 19, 2017, 07:03:37 AM
Have you got a spare room for Bradley? Or a sofa he can rest on ? His far too polite to ask for himself.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 19, 2017, 08:06:56 AM
hehe thanks.
And I think it will be a plain old 'exit', since they can't keep me back and aren't requesting concessions and money ;)

And Eclipse, not at the moment but yes I'll have one. Just for a few days, though, I'm difficult when living with others ;D 8)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Eclipse on October 19, 2017, 08:26:02 AM
I’m sure he can put up with all your disgusting horrible habits like folding book spines in half and throwing books and leaving them on the floor and drawing doddles in the novels and ripping the last page out of books and being a fan of Sanderson. He can totally put up with that for a few days we’ll maybe not the Sanderson ????
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 19, 2017, 09:51:51 AM
 :o :o :o

 :'(

 ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on October 30, 2017, 05:41:13 PM
I got my keys today, I'm a home owner in the UK :D :D

I was out measuring the rooms, and now I'll play with a floor planner ;D

I thought I didn't have to change anything, but a proper look in the bedroom, at the wardrobe and carpet, made me realise I do need to change them... I went to the carpet shop this afternoon and all's set for fitting in 2 weeks, and now I'll play in the Ikea site to build my wardrobe hehe

Eventually I'll want to change the carpet in the other rooms and the stairs, but that's when I get my bonus next year hehe
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on November 11, 2017, 04:46:01 PM
Ohmygawd painting!
Some bits look ok, others not that much :-\ I hope it gets fixed on the second coat...
I did 2 walls today, tomorrow I have to come early and do the remaining (one's the big window), plus the second coat...
Any tips?
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on November 11, 2017, 10:58:08 PM
Ohmygawd painting!
Some bits look ok, others not that much :-\ I hope it gets fixed on the second coat...
I did 2 walls today, tomorrow I have to come early and do the remaining (one's the big window), plus the second coat...
Any tips?

Pay other people.
Or Mrs. JMack, who’s quite good.  ;)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on November 12, 2017, 12:27:01 AM
Ohmygawd painting!
Some bits look ok, others not that much :-\ I hope it gets fixed on the second coat...
I did 2 walls today, tomorrow I have to come early and do the remaining (one's the big window), plus the second coat...
Any tips?

You can dilute paint about a quarter more thinly than it says on the tin, that helps it go on more easily and smoothly. British paints use to have an undercover/sealer/primer that is good if the original paint is really old and scuffed or marked. Also really helps get the next two coats on if you can be bothered.

Good luck, it is hard work but very satisfying when you see it the next day  ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on November 12, 2017, 07:23:31 PM
Good luck, it is hard work but very satisfying when you see it the next day  ;D
You're right, it looked much better today! :D
I finished the room, got a second coat in and painted the skirting board! I'll go back tomorrow for a third coat on the bit that hadn't been painted before (by the previous owners), as that's slightly darker than the rest.

I also discovered many books I want to re-read as I was putting them back on thr shelves, hehe - and I haven't even got started on the fantasy ones ;)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on November 12, 2017, 07:40:51 PM
Don’t be afraid of rich, darker wall colours. Mrs. JMack painted our computer room a rich winey red. Quite beautiful. Artwork really pops against that background.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: J.R. Darewood on November 14, 2017, 09:21:13 AM
I have one dark red wall in an apartment full of white walls, and I love it.

But I know nothing of domestic stuff
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on November 14, 2017, 12:27:34 PM
If you are looking for deep and rich colours these people are worth a look.

https://www.firedearth.com/paint (https://www.firedearth.com/paint) real mineral paints and the depth of colour shows through. They also last well.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on November 14, 2017, 12:52:19 PM
I painted my bedroom white.
The carpet will be light grey and the furniture is white.

Colour will be in my duvets and pillows, I've got all colourful stuff :D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on November 16, 2017, 02:06:24 PM
Last one, I promise ;)

I AM IN MY NEW HOUSE FOR GOOD! :D :D

Gosh, I had *so much* to bring back, the "just bits and pieces" that hadn't been moved before :o The lady from the Rental Agency (who was there for the final inspection and get the keys) helped me take the ton of bags to the car, otherwise I'd be going up and down forever, hehe

Lots of stuff to do here now to get it tidy, but the first will be to assemble the bed ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: tebakutis on November 16, 2017, 03:32:48 PM
I AM IN MY NEW HOUSE FOR GOOD! :D :D

Hooray!
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on November 16, 2017, 05:40:18 PM
Good for you! Enjoy your new home
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: xiagan on November 16, 2017, 11:17:42 PM
Pics or it didn't happen. ;)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on November 17, 2017, 01:55:12 AM
Congratulations New Home Owner- enjoy it and have fun  ;D ;D ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on November 17, 2017, 02:41:50 AM
Pics or it didn't happen. ;)
When I manage to find the right cables, remove all the cardboard packages, tidy up... ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on November 22, 2017, 04:53:04 PM
Look what I did!!! ;D

(https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/khOQ0u-djvWYpVthfJyPE9W0e-OSwZH3EYsHCMPQos_B90OMPnEKaMvdHvKAIyKCrr4eiuS9e04aJsb9RGIb1HDklMVU0w1tyx01XiPYMoKGhTlLGoFOwJR76wCiaK7hY-dSZOHA3eMW7_BH9kRyMX4QWhW2-4eF0fNWlTuQarx3tPMEuxG_mKKD2emEqh6k_HcQup5kb8fsHXIipJndnd2VMqHpvrvNEmTd_Fhs_rUfV6I3MDa5-WPgZYPpt3vO7gnvjVbsaBXQHH0gAfRoMlnpPk4HHqrkd1nzOBXO8HnvqgXv-aIytv3zd9ORphz4umPCNl5Z18A-2zU-v5aJFFl1FZgujKov7CuhFopBTxkEz6ip7zDUYlBzNfZaRmgq8H7naFBLzI8rXY27tT_PYzfDZ1L3mYZs0EWcZxA3E82UgcLhL_0s5MVj731H0NNwelViYswBvPvfH57IWbRaXSlJL5eZ3GQA3xM37G6oiQOTP2c2YIDDvBZ19cXCOwJjlxLnfmrfMHUwYWG-BjBveIk8C0SagOSy1eockjKZh-3u6icqMpMpR8eKGrgtF9SgTKG-Lx1urXGjsPFExATwNNjiYx47IP8Q6Jxr9i0Ruw=w486-h647-no)

(I mean I built it. I assembled it)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on November 22, 2017, 11:29:07 PM
That is a lot of hard work -hope you had an electric screwdriver/drill. 8)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on November 23, 2017, 08:38:11 AM
That is a lot of hard work -hope you had an electric screwdriver/drill. 8)
Yeah, borrowed from my friends! Who also helped me with the heavy lifting, hehe
Yesterday was the last step, there were 3 of us trying to get the doors fitted :o

Anyway, I assembled that wardrobe, the bed, 2 bedside tables, a small chest of drawers, a sofa, a dining table and 4 chairs 8)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on April 01, 2018, 06:28:05 PM
Starting phase 2 at the house :D

So I decided to fix the spare bedroom, as my parents are already asking when they can come visit, and I also want to have my sister+family.

I dismantled the old wardrobe there, and discovered that behind it I could see 3 different colours on the wall!
Step 1 would be to paint the walls, but first I had to remove the big Disney Princesses sticker band all around, hehe
During this, I discovered that those 3 colours had been removed in patches underneath the sticker...
As the current painted wallpaper was woodchip, I decided to remove it altogether, and start afresh.
When I started doing that, I discovered another wallpaper underneath that one, bright orange and yellow, with flowers, that was probably put up when the house was built, 40 years ago.

So: 2 wallpapers and 3 coats of paint :o

I'm now halfway through removing everything, and the actual wall isn't plaster, so I think it will need wallpaper instead of paint: this means me hiring someone to do it, I draw the line at putting up wallpaper myself (I want it to be properly done, hehe)

Oh the joys of DYI ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on April 01, 2018, 11:41:22 PM
Starting phase 2 at the house :D

So I decided to fix the spare bedroom, as my parents are already asking when they can come visit, and I also want to have my sister+family.

I dismantled the old wardrobe there, and discovered that behind it I could see 3 different colours on the wall!
Step 1 would be to paint the walls, but first I had to remove the big Disney Princesses sticker band all around, hehe
During this, I discovered that those 3 colours had been removed in patches underneath the sticker...
As the current painted wallpaper was woodchip, I decided to remove it altogether, and start afresh.
When I started doing that, I discovered another wallpaper underneath that one, bright orange and yellow, with flowers, that was probably put up when the house was built, 40 years ago.

So: 2 wallpapers and 3 coats of paint :o

I'm now halfway through removing everything, and the actual wall isn't plaster, so I think it will need wallpaper instead of paint: this means me hiring someone to do it, I draw the line at putting up wallpaper myself (I want it to be properly done, hehe)

Oh the joys of DYI ;D

Wallpaper is a work of the devil. Any urban fantasy that wants to invoke Satan could do it through the medium of sizing, glue, and matching patterns across bolts of paper.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on April 02, 2018, 12:05:32 AM
Paint over all. Spackle anything that indicates there's something beneath the paint, sand, and re-paint.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Lady Ty on April 02, 2018, 02:20:40 AM
@ScarletBea  you deserve a medal and a mountain of ice cream. Painting can be satisfying, wallpaper is a nightmare. Definitely get someone else to do it. ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on April 02, 2018, 10:24:19 AM
Paint over all. Spackle anything that indicates there's something beneath the paint, sand, and re-paint.
After all the layers that would mean the room getting smaller ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 10, 2018, 04:05:37 PM
Time to revive this thread!

I had the decorator in, putting wallpaper in my spare room: he just left and the room looks lovely! :D

Next step is carpet, then buy a sofa-bed, and it's ready to get visitors ;D

My plan is to create a little 'music corner' and maybe buy an old-fashioned record player, and bring my vinyl records from Portugal...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on July 10, 2018, 06:18:09 PM
We have a music corner too. Our new furniture for our new house arrives tomorrow. We're actually trying to decorate, which we've never done beyond making new things not clash. We're going for a 60's-ish Mid-Century Modern look. We have a king-size bed & matching night stands, a bar with two stools, a coffee table, and something else on the way. The new house is looking great! So biiiiig. I could have most of you over for a weekend!
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on July 10, 2018, 10:00:25 PM
Careful now, I have air miles..
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: The Gem Cutter on July 11, 2018, 03:07:57 AM
We'd love to host anyone who feels like exploring the American South. I cannot imagine why any of you bright Europeans with easy access to the whole of Europe and the Mediterranean would WANT to, but it's your dime ;)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 15, 2018, 03:55:06 PM
I started removing the wallpaper from the office room.
It's woodchip.
Shoot me now ::) :'(

(borrowed a steamer from a friend, watched youtube videos, but it will still be crazy hard/annoying)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on December 15, 2018, 04:32:11 PM
I started removing the wallpaper from the office room.
It's woodchip.
Shoot me now ::) :'(

(borrowed a steamer from a friend, watched youtube videos, but it will still be crazy hard/annoying)

That was our first house. Any project turned out to be a bastard. Take off wallpaper or paneling and find a coat-sized hole underneath. Rip up carpeting and discover why it was put down in the first place.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 16, 2018, 06:20:02 PM
 :'(
First steaming = remove the paper-y bit
Second steaming = remove the glue and the woodchip
bit by very small bit >:(
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on December 16, 2018, 08:33:41 PM
Ok Bea I don't know what you have borrowed but I have always used Earlex Steamers and hot air guns and found them cheap and effective. Do NOT BUY CHEAP SCRAPERS these will take forever and you need a decent edge to shift painted woodchip. expect to blunt a few.

I would see how long it takes to loosen up the paper in a test area and count down from that number of seconds before moving the steamer to a new area. Don't soak the wall or you will blow the plaster and that will be very costly or time consuming.

Sadly the hard part is not the stripping but getting the walls back in condition afterwards. Lots of filling and skimming. And for the love of all that is holy do not remove the skirting boards unless you are replacing them with new.

I have used paint stripper to shift painted paper and then steamed afterwards but be aware of the fumes you release doing that and I wouldn't recommend it for a whole wall.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 16, 2018, 09:27:42 PM
I just got a thingie that steams...
Then I'm using a plastic scrapper, to avoid scratching the plaster. It's quite a thick plaster, grey, and doesn't damage easily. I'm finding children's drawings on the wall again ;D (and covered holes)
This is the only bit I'm doing myself, then I plan to get the same guy who did my other room to finish the walls and put wallpaper in, but this time I'm planning on getting paintable wallpaper, and then a coat of paint - then again, I might change my mind...
Once all that is done, I'll change the carpet.

This was the order I did the other room and it worked out fine.
The difference this time is that this room isn't empty - I've moved all books and paper stuff to the spare room to avoid damage by steam, and also so I could move the shelves to the middle of the room. The other bits of furniture are being moved around - and I'm still not sure how I'll handle the wardrobe (came with the house), it seems very heavy, but that can be the last wall.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on December 16, 2018, 10:43:15 PM
I would suggest a decent metal scraper then.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 23, 2018, 04:29:03 PM
I would suggest a decent metal scraper then.
Got one yesterday, thanks!

Now it seems my fridge has broken down :'(
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on December 23, 2018, 10:13:10 PM
well i hope it made a difference. it should have an edge on it from new. Is the fridge in warrenty or is it from your old place? Whats it not doing? Yes I know what a stupid question that is. Does the light still come on inside, if not check the plug fuse before anything else.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 23, 2018, 10:27:51 PM
It's just not cold at all, I only noticed because I've got a thermometer inside, I'm pretty sure it was ok at breakfast.
It's integrated, so it came with the house when I bought it, I don't know how old it is.
The light comes on, and it's making a constant humming noise, as well as some dripping sounds. No visible water anywhere.

I've been cooking the stuff that's done in the oven, at least then they will last a few days, but a lot of the freezer will have to go in the bin - I'd been doing a big shopping earlier this week... I hate waste....
I'm using the garden as my fridge now, all in bags out there, the temperature is the right level.

Tomorrow I'll try calling someone to come check it out.

 :'( :'(

It certainly put a damper on the day :-\
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on December 24, 2018, 01:53:02 AM
bear in mind tomorrow is Christmas eve check what they will charge it may just be cheaper to get a replacement fitted fridge in the sales.

Best of luck
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 24, 2018, 09:56:11 AM
Thanks.
After a few calls I got a person to come check it in a couple of hours, call out charge is £40 which seems normal (although I have really no idea what is normal...)
He'll check and give me a quote, and then yes, I'll decide if it's worth fixing or better to replace.

One thing I discovered (yesterday I started checking) is that integrated fridge freezers are way more expensive than free-standing ones, why is that??
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 24, 2018, 11:26:47 AM
Well, it's the most complicated problem, the compressor.
They tested the thermostat, the gas and the piping, all of that was ok.
It's still better than buying a new one, it will be £165. The problem is that they can only come fix it on Thursday, due to Christmas and boxing day...
 :'(
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on December 24, 2018, 11:40:36 AM
£40 sounds like a good price for call out. See whether the guy can give you a replacement quote as well as a repair quote if its expensive, but ask him after he has quoted for the repair.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 24, 2018, 03:31:15 PM
Well, that cost of £165 is everything that they'll do: a repair that involves a new compressor, and the part will have a 2-year guarantee. So it's actually a replacement of the broken down part.

Thanks for having replied and given me support :) I was feeling really down about this yesterday.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on December 24, 2018, 09:08:13 PM
Think I must have started posting before your reply was visible.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on December 25, 2018, 01:57:21 PM
Oh, the joys of home ownership.
Thanksgiving 2017 (huge family holiday in the states, with big dinner to prepare), our water heater broke the night before. Stress, stress, stress.

Glad it worked out, @ScarletBea , and with not too much damage to your pocket book.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on December 28, 2018, 03:22:15 PM
Daft thought. check your home insurance. the fridge breaking wont be covered but the food will be. they will want to see the quote for the replacement part as proof that the fridge died and melted your stuff and your food receipts and an estimate of value for older contents that is usually it.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 28, 2018, 03:48:32 PM
Thanks S, another friend had mentioned that, I will check it out.
Only if it doesn't affect the no claims bonus, though.

By the way, it got fixed and it broke down again ::) (see the other thread...)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 31, 2018, 11:11:43 AM
New compressor is from a damaged batch, repairman told not to use the ones he's got.
So not getting a new one today after all, I have to wait for Wednesday ::)
Meaning I'll have to work from home in the afternoon - at least I've got the option.

10 days without a fridge... *sigh*
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: CameronJohnston on December 31, 2018, 11:21:01 AM
10 days? That's ridiculous! How are you supposed to have a cup of tea without milk?
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 31, 2018, 12:17:12 PM
Well, I drink herbal tea, so don't put milk, but I'm using my back garden as a fridge ;D
Been having to open the door into the cold every time I want something...

Milk, butter, cheese and whatever else I had in the fridge last time it worked.
The freezer stuff I cooked in a rush too.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on December 31, 2018, 06:58:19 PM
Herbal tea?
That’s not tea.
That’s just weeds soaked in water.  ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on December 31, 2018, 10:13:10 PM
You haven't tasted (and smelled) cinnamon tea yet, then (soooo nice!!!) ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: JMack on January 01, 2019, 01:58:04 AM
You haven't tasted (and smelled) cinnamon tea yet, then (soooo nice!!!) ;D

Cinnamon = spice
Cinnamon <> herb

Quod erat demonstrandum
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on January 01, 2019, 09:23:16 AM
 ;D :P
Honey and vanilla? Ginger and lemon? Oh, non herb too... ::) ;)

Peppermint! Camomile!

Anyway, I mean non-caffeine tea, hehe
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ArcaneArtsVelho on January 01, 2019, 10:21:56 AM
"Tea" without any actual tea in it is not tea, Bea. It's an infusion.  ;)   Fight me!  8) :P
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on January 01, 2019, 11:42:53 AM
I won't fight! 8)

Then I much prefer "infusions" to "tea". Kill me ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: xiagan on January 01, 2019, 08:46:23 PM
I won't fight! 8)

Then I much prefer "infusions" to "tea". Kill me ;D
I'm with you. Herbal tea is best tea.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on January 05, 2019, 03:18:29 PM
Just because I know you were wondering (not ;)), the lastest, and I hope final news, is that my fridge is finally fixed! :D
It sort of got fixed on Wednesday, but then the light wasn't coming on when the compressor was paused. The guys came this morning and fixed the connections, apparently the normal electric colours are switched in this model and they had done the wronf connections ::)

But yay, I got frozen stuff back 8)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: J.R. Darewood on January 05, 2019, 06:38:48 PM
Yay!!! Ice cream!!!
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on June 30, 2019, 01:32:35 PM
I think I do need to buy a new fridge freezer, 6 months after the repair....
I think this time it's the thermostast that is weird: sometimes it just doesn't stop working, even if the fridge part is under 0 degrees, and I keep having to check and then turn the thermostast up or down depending on whether it actually needs to work.

Thing is, there are A TON of appliances, how on earth do I choose a good one?
I've tried googling 'best integrated fridge freezers', that just gave me the 'best' brands? One of them is Beko, which is about half price of the other ones, why would that be?
Argh for decisions...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Henry Dale on June 30, 2019, 01:51:46 PM
I have a beko oven, it's a pretty decent brand.
Ofc not sure about your specific model but beko isn't the worst.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on June 30, 2019, 01:56:00 PM
Thanks, that helps!
It does seem to have lots of features and the size I need, so I might go for that.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: isos81 on July 01, 2019, 07:48:32 AM
Beko is half Turkish brand. It is a partnership of Koc Family (Richest family in Turkey) and British Electronics, hence, BE-KO :) They build quality tech, along with their master brand, Arcelik. I would go for Beko for the half price.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Rostum on July 01, 2019, 07:55:07 AM
Think of it as a logical process and keep filtering down by what is imprortant to you.

Is it built in or freestanding?
What dimensions are required?
What colour is needed?
Layout fridge or Freezer on top?
Energy Rating?
Price?
and so forth.

Once you have met your list you probably only have a small choice anyway.
My Freestanding Beko Fridge Freezer is fine so far but i doubt it will last as long as the 40 year old zannusi fridge it replaced. the reason i bought it over the other choices was it was 35% off and about half the price the others that fit in the gap.
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 01, 2019, 08:54:23 AM
Thanks but no, after all those questions there are still a load of brands, and even if I restrict the brands, lots of different models, hehe

And funny you say that, because the one I have now is Zanussi (it was already in the house when I bought it, it's integrated), and it's the one that's now failing (and that broke down over Christmas).
Reading around, the brands to choose from are Beko, AEG and Bosch, apparently, but I'm not even sure I can trust those reccs.

I'll wait and see if I really need to change it... but I don't think it's normal to have to tweek the thermostast all the time...
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 09, 2019, 03:07:16 PM
I'll wait and see if I really need to change it... but I don't think it's normal to have to tweek the thermostast all the time...

ARGH!
Yesterday I checked the electricity meter for Q2 and the usage was DOUBLE the same period last year - and the only possible reason is the fridge!
And I was thinking, since I'm buying a new one, better go for the A++ energy rating and be more efficient (for wallet in the long run and environment)

(Sorry for all the posts and questions. You've probably realised by now that I'm not very good with making a decision :-[)
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: Skip on July 09, 2019, 04:23:22 PM
I have a method that has served me well; I offer it FWIW.

First, make your requirements list, do the research, make a list. All the rational things.

Second, become irrational. No, really. Doing all the rational stuff only ever gets me what people are pleased to call a short list, though often the list is still dauntingly long. There's no way to make a choice from there because every item in the list invariably meets the requirements. Sure I could choose the cheapest item, but often there's little difference in price at the bottom end, and things like reputation and reviews are all over the place.

So, I go with my gut. As far as possible, I'll look at the items in person. I choose the shiny one. The pretty one, the glitzy one, the tasteful one ... the one, in short, that appeals to me on a non-rational basis. The one that best makes me smile.

I have a solid reason for this approach. I call it the "that damn car" reason.

I have a brother-in-law who once owned a 1965 Ford Mustang. It almost never ran in the 30+ years he owned it. Every so often he'd get it running, go for days or weeks, then it'd break down again. Spent thousands on it.

But he loved it. The car could do no wrong, not because it was so good a vehicle, but because he loved it. Over the years, he had other cars. If it was a car he bought because it was inexpensive or whatever, and the least thing went wrong, it was "that damn car." Even if the car was flawless, it was just a car. But that Mustang? It wasn't just a car, it was a project. Because he loved it.

That became the basis for my decision making. Sure, do all the rational stuff. I mean, we wouldn't want to be irrational, would we? But reason takes us only so far. The heart takes us the rest of the way.

Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 09, 2019, 06:44:59 PM
Thanks Skip, that makes a lot of sense.

Anyway, fridge bought - I can breathe again ;D
Title: Re: Domestic Issues
Post by: ScarletBea on July 24, 2019, 06:13:13 PM
Big saga, but I won't bother you with that - anyway, finally it seems that the fridge will be delivered tomorrow
I just got a text to say the interval: between 1.28pm and 3.28pm ::)