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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #30 on: July 27, 2017, 04:32:54 PM »
We call that a "chain" in the UK, and it's very normal.
Since I'm renting, I don't have that problem, but let's see what happens to the house I potentially choose...
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #31 on: July 27, 2017, 04:43:55 PM »
oh, and since nobody wants a buyer with a contingency on selling their house first (that's how we lost out on the bidding war for the first house), we've had to sell our house first to get the money to buy a new one.  so, long story short, we're in escrow right now and are going to be "homeless" after we close next week.  (imagine us, with the requirements above, living in a two-bedroom apartment . . . yay.)

We probably ended up in our current house because of contingency issues.  Saw one we really liked, smaller bedrooms and living spaces than we have now but it had the perfect basement (we don't have a basement), square footage was about the same just in different areas.  We wanted to put an offer in but the seller wouldn't do a contingency. A few days later we accepted an offer on our house and reached back to the first house and they were in a multiple offer situation and we would probably have to go to the top of our set budget (which was lower than what we were approved for) to get it.  We went out looking that day to see a few more houses before deciding what to do about the other house and saw the house we're in now.  If the first house had accepted the contingency or we had sold our house just a couple days sooner (and ours was only on the market for 10 days) we would probably be in that other house.

exactly.

i feel like it's only gotten worse.  i feel like all we hear is "seller won't take a contingency offer".

who are these people who just have that kind of money laying around in a place where the median (not even average!!) home price is well north of half a million dollars?

and, how do i befriend them?

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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #32 on: July 27, 2017, 07:01:26 PM »
Summary day 2:

Place 3 --> nope, too small
Place 4 --> great house, really, but the area is too isolated and a bit hard to get to :( but def a contender... maybe
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #33 on: July 28, 2017, 04:56:19 AM »
who are these people who just have that kind of money laying around in a place where the median (not even average!!) home price is well north of half a million dollars?

and, how do i befriend them?

Reminds of the expression "I either want LESS CORRUPTION - or MORE OPPORTUNITY to participate!!"
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #34 on: July 28, 2017, 05:49:20 AM »
I have supposedly been clearing out and getting rid of belongings to downsize from my family home to a manageable small apartment in an area I don't need car for shopping etc. Have been half heartedly trying to do this for last couple of years but it is hard to leave. Now at the point I physically cannot manage and have to get my act together soon.

Trouble is the small apartments where I would prefer to live cost as much or more than my home is likely to bring. I have huge garden and small 3 bed house, but biggest demands are for inner city or town centre with no garden and the prices are ridiculous, but that is what I need now. I am also not in any position, nor do I want, to take on another mortgage because it took most of my working life and a large lump of my final pension to pay for this house. I have not made a huge capital gain because I re-mortgaged several times to get us through unavoidable major important expenses.

So to everyone stuck in the contingency loop I understand and sympathise, it is a frustrating position to be in and so easy to get someone else beat you with ready cash when you think you have the perfect house. Glad you found what you wanted @Hedin and all good luck @m3mnoch. @ScarletBea, you are in the best position of all to buy, but it is often hard to find what is just right, although not sure how long you have before you need to move out and urgency doesn't help.

 
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Just have patience, our realtor said most people look at around 20 houses but she had some fall in love with the first house they looked at and others it look 30-40 houses.

Hedin, this is right, you find one that is just that bit more appealing, I wwent to view about 12 houses, back in 1979 with no Allhomes or internet search, and this home was a desperate last minute view, late one afternoon and it immediately felt like the the right one. We have loved it as a family for all these years and it couldn't have suited us better. ;D
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #35 on: August 01, 2017, 09:55:34 AM »
Just 1 comment:

How can a house not have a single wall where you can put shelves??
Yesterday I viewed one that was quite nice, but on the only straight wall in the lounge, that didn't have the window or the fireplace, it had a massive radiator ::)
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #36 on: August 04, 2017, 05:34:38 PM »
@Lady_Ty is the "white vinegar" we talked before the same as "white wine vinegar"?
That's all I could find - and I'm afraid the last time I used "distilled malt vinegar", it was the only clear one in the shop... :-[
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #37 on: August 04, 2017, 10:26:29 PM »
@Lady_Ty is the "white vinegar" we talked before the same as "white wine vinegar"?
That's all I could find - and I'm afraid the last time I used "distilled malt vinegar", it was the only clear one in the shop... :-[

No, ScarletBea, White Wine vinegar is too expensive to use for washing, it is for marinades or dressings or adding a special dash of flavour. Mary Berry seems to splash it around all over the place.  ;D
Plain White vinegar is just diluted acetic acid and should be readily available in a large supermarket or even a hardware. I buy it in 2 litre containers for use in cleaning, and pickling. Sorry I dont know your food/general chain supermarket names. Do you have Sainsburys still or Waitrose? Aldi?
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #38 on: August 05, 2017, 01:12:12 AM »

I wash my clothes in liquid gold and dragon tears.

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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #39 on: August 05, 2017, 10:05:49 AM »
@Lady_Ty is the "white vinegar" we talked before the same as "white wine vinegar"?
That's all I could find - and I'm afraid the last time I used "distilled malt vinegar", it was the only clear one in the shop... :-[

No, ScarletBea, White Wine vinegar is too expensive to use for washing, it is for marinades or dressings or adding a special dash of flavour. Mary Berry seems to splash it around all over the place.  ;D
Plain White vinegar is just diluted acetic acid and should be readily available in a large supermarket or even a hardware. I buy it in 2 litre containers for use in cleaning, and pickling. Sorry I dont know your food/general chain supermarket names. Do you have Sainsburys still or Waitrose? Aldi?
Thanks, I figured it was the case, when I saw the price ;D
And yep, I looked in Sainsbury's, and it's quite a big one. I'll now start exploring the others (Asda, Tesco, Lidl).
(no Waitrose near me, that's for posh people, usually in the south ;) )


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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #40 on: August 05, 2017, 04:13:49 PM »
Oh!
I just viewed one and it felt right, and now I'm afraid I won't get it. I don't want to jump blindly, but there were 2 more viewings after me - I told the agent I was interested, and please get me a second viewing...
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #41 on: August 07, 2017, 10:10:23 PM »
Second viewing of that one tomorrow :D

None of my friends are free to go... oh well, I know I'll decide on my own anyway...
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #42 on: August 10, 2017, 09:42:36 PM »
 >:( >:( :'(

I never expected the process to be so complicated and stressful... watching Location Location Location and other property programs on TV makes it look so easy ::)
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #43 on: August 10, 2017, 10:56:33 PM »
TV makes hard things look easy, easy things look hard, and beautiful people look average. I was on TV once back in the 90s and they made me look mean  8)
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Re: Domestic Issues
« Reply #44 on: August 11, 2017, 01:08:39 PM »
I was on TV once back in the 90s and they made me look mean  8)
Visual proof or it didn't happen! ;D
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