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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2415 on: August 12, 2018, 05:13:30 AM »
@JMack very very sorry to hear you are laid low again, and join in with J.R.D to be bossy and say please, please be careful and patient. Pneumonia is indeed deadly even if you are in peak form and you must rest and give yourself a chance to get really strong.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2416 on: August 13, 2018, 03:52:13 AM »
@JMack Get better soon! Rest and recover, then rest some more!

I've been dealing with disturbing issues this week, trying to help someone I love who makes helping them painful and frustrating, so sorry I am late to the party. Drink lots of fluids and monitor yourself closely.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2417 on: August 14, 2018, 09:35:05 PM »
A guy I shared a flat with for five years, who was a bit younger than me and had two little kids, just died of cancer. He had his first operation because of it ~14 years ago but it always kept coming back.
We weren't close anymore because life got in the way and that's sometimes how it is but he was a wonderful person and neither he nor his family deserved this. Fuck cancer.

And @JMack, look on the bright side: You don't have to do push-ups anymore and pneumonia is probably better to have in the summer than in winter. ;) Get well soon!
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2418 on: August 14, 2018, 09:38:01 PM »
Yes, fuck cancer. Really.

And screw pneumonia, but it’s nothing like cancer.

But anyway, I’m on the upswing, working half days from home this week.
If nothing else, it’s finally given me a chance to push past page 200 of “Gardens of the Moon.” I finally understand this book, and can says it’s completely awesome.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2419 on: August 14, 2018, 09:47:05 PM »
Fuck cancer >:(

And... you've got pneumonia and you're still working :o :-X
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2420 on: August 15, 2018, 05:32:04 AM »
While I am sorry for the loss of your friend Xiagan, I am encouraged that it is not just me that grieves for those we haven't seen for awhile. The world was a better place with them in it.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2421 on: August 17, 2018, 10:33:17 PM »
A Facebook post by his mother just reminded me that my cousin Aðalsteinn/"Alli" would have turned 39 years old today. He died in a car accident in 2000, and I very vividly remember getting the news over the phone. He was my uncle's son, and I'd known him literally all my life. He was older than me; the cool guy who was further along in life, and a musician with way more friends than me. Now that I'm close to 36, he's a kid. Just a kid, taken way too early by random chance. A kid who was beloved by a lot of people. His mother's crying at the funeral is the worst sound I've ever heard, and it haunts me to this day.

"Treasure the people in your life" is a hard maxim to live by. It's natural to fall into routine and complacency. But it's worth it to every now and then reflect on how lucky you are to have the people you have.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2422 on: August 23, 2018, 09:04:33 AM »
Stressssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

STRESS!!!

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2423 on: August 23, 2018, 02:53:07 PM »
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Stressssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

STRESS!!!

Something brought on by others you can do little to nothing about. Remember that none of it will matter in a 100 years and likely not in 3 months time.

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2424 on: August 23, 2018, 07:51:03 PM »
Stressssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

STRESS!!!

Why?
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2425 on: August 23, 2018, 08:05:38 PM »
Deadlines work stuff to do no sleep not enough time

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2426 on: August 24, 2018, 03:32:28 PM »
Sorry I haven’t been around much. Here’s the latest, mostly good news.

I’m past the pneumonia, and feeling pretty normal. There was a follow on scare that I might have contracted the “super-bug” C-Diff, but tests came back negative. Which was a huge relief.

My cardiologist is having me wear a heart monitor 24/7 for the next month to make sure there are no “silent” episodes going on. In any case, I’m going to be more susceptible to things like pneumonia going forward, and susceptible to heart palpitations (atrial flutter). Cheery news.

Have been working from home the last two weeks. Will be back on site starting Monday.

All of this has been hitting me with some really depressed feelings, which are very far away from my normal. I’ve been feeling (and there’s no great logic here) less valued at work, less optimistic about my long term health, and just plain down. Little things get at me. My boss asked me to do something the other day, then decided to assign it to a different functional area. The change actually makes sense, but it plays into my sense of being marginal. A number of things that I did at work are now being done by others and aren’t necessarily coming back to me. Again, each one makes sense on its own - I’m a generalist, not a specialist - but it all weighs on me.

I’d apologize for whining, but this is the right thread for it.  8)

Meanwhile, it’s a fantastic day outside. I think I’ll take my computer out on the back deck as I do my work-from-home.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2427 on: August 24, 2018, 03:46:37 PM »
*big hugs* @JMack

I'm so glad you're well again!

And we're doing a RPG now, stop working and go take a look ;)
(it's friday afternoon here, I just did that, hehe)
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2428 on: August 25, 2018, 04:30:13 AM »
I'll spare you from my usual dose of unsolicited advice, Jmack, as you have a wealth of your own. I am glad you're through what you're through, and hope what's ahead is fair weather and smooth sailing.

I am preoccupied with an acquaintance with a terrible drinking problem. I encouraged her to get into detox and she went. She's now back and feeling glum and vulnerable. I gave her what I hope is good advice - to get out there and get busy. She has an easy lifestyle, and the boredom and lack of direction are not good for her. I'll hope she plans a challenging enough course to give her the sense of purpose she lacks. I hope this was good advice. I don't know anything about addiction or alcoholism, besides that it killed my father who died alone and wasn't found for months. I hope that story opened her eyes. Cancer just kills you. Addiction kills your relationships then kills you, so you die alone. Anyway, I hope she gets her shit together.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2429 on: August 28, 2018, 07:26:03 AM »
My day started at 8:30am. It's 12:15AM rn and I'm just gonna take a break to shower but I still got a good 3 hours of work to do before I can sleep.  FML