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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #255 on: November 23, 2015, 08:29:25 AM »
*punches depression in the face*
This morning I won: the full 5k (in 33'42") :D

I... don't know what those numbers mean, but good that you're feeling better. Congratulations.

Thanks, sorry, I've posted before about me running, and how difficult it's been to resume, and this links to that. This was the first time I ran the full 5 km since April.
Eclipse is right (the second time, hehe), the second number means I did it in 33 minutes and 42 seconds, which isn't the best but not the worst either :)
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #256 on: November 23, 2015, 09:54:21 AM »
*punches depression in the face*
This morning I won: the full 5k (in 33'42") :D

I... don't know what those numbers mean, but good that you're feeling better. Congratulations.

Thanks, sorry, I've posted before about me running, and how difficult it's been to resume, and this links to that. This was the first time I ran the full 5 km since April.
Eclipse is right (the second time, hehe), the second number means I did it in 33 minutes and 42 seconds, which isn't the best but not the worst either :)

That's a perfectly good speed for a run Bea, you should be proud. I think my best was 5k in 29'00", and that was at my fittest condition. I'm actually curious to see how different it will be to run in this new weather, kinda scared.
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #257 on: November 23, 2015, 03:38:25 PM »
That's a perfectly good speed for a run Bea, you should be proud. I think my best was 5k in 29'00", and that was at my fittest condition. I'm actually curious to see how different it will be to run in this new weather, kinda scared.
Ta - especially since we're talking about a 45-year old who only started running (regularly or otherwise!) a couple of years ago, hehe
I run in the cold (according to my garmin, yesterday the average temp was 2.8 C), but not in the rain...
You'll be fine!

And ups and downs, ups and downs - stupid meltdown at work in front of lots of people, better now (got real hugs :D)
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #258 on: November 24, 2015, 12:37:03 AM »
*punches depression in the face*
This morning I won: the full 5k (in 33'42") :D

I... don't know what those numbers mean, but good that you're feeling better. Congratulations.

Thanks, sorry, I've posted before about me running, and how difficult it's been to resume, and this links to that. This was the first time I ran the full 5 km since April.
Eclipse is right (the second time, hehe), the second number means I did it in 33 minutes and 42 seconds, which isn't the best but not the worst either :)
Really not bad!  Congratulations!
 I've done a 5k and I got 20:58... I'm quick!  Somewhat.
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #259 on: November 26, 2015, 12:59:31 PM »
excuse me, look away now...

AAAAAARGGGGHHHHHHHH

(I just want to be ok :( )
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #260 on: November 26, 2015, 05:03:56 PM »
You're okay in my book.  ;D
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #261 on: November 30, 2015, 01:45:01 PM »
Pffff.
Doc said there's not anything else she can do for me, just keep the medication going, and I should really try therapy. I've done it in the past, and loved the therapist, she was quite good and helped lots, but it kinda feels like a failure to go back to her once again.
Maybe I'll try the local groups... maybe in January...
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #262 on: December 01, 2015, 06:41:12 AM »
Pffff.
Doc said there's not anything else she can do for me, just keep the medication going, and I should really try therapy. I've done it in the past, and loved the therapist, she was quite good and helped lots, but it kinda feels like a failure to go back to her once again.
Maybe I'll try the local groups... maybe in January...
Not at all a failure to go back to therapist if she helped and you liked her. How about thinking of it as a booster shot?
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #263 on: December 01, 2015, 08:37:27 AM »
Thanks - I was actually going to delete the post this morning, but now you've quoted it...
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #264 on: December 01, 2015, 09:19:08 AM »
Didn't notice this yesterday - definitely not a failure in my eyes, not even vaguely related. Booster shot is a very good analogy I think. :)
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #265 on: December 01, 2015, 09:55:55 AM »
I did notice this yesterday but forgot to reply.  ::) :-[
Is there a booster shot against forgetfulness?  :P

But yes, not a failure. Not at all.
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #266 on: December 03, 2015, 11:35:48 AM »
Thanks, you gave me the push I needed :-*

Random thing I noticed: I'm reading less/slower >:(
A few reasons:
I no longer wake up in the middle of the night, so that's that time lost (although I suppose it's good from a resting point of view, offset by weird dreams);
I've been having a stronger sense of 'scared of going to sleep', so I don't go to bed at normal hours, so that cuts on bed-reading time;
I spend too much time here ;)
Noticed harder to concentrate in last couple of weeks :(

Definitely need to change!!! Bring on time off and holidays...
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #267 on: December 03, 2015, 12:04:25 PM »
@ScarletBea I always find the dreams so vivid when I accidentally mess with my citalapram dose.  Can be great fun.

Therapy is a great tool for dealing with depression. I've found a good EFT therapist and that was surprisingly useful.
This stuff basically... http://www.emofree.com/eft-tutorial/tapping-basics/what-is-eft.html
I can always see if the guy I know can recommend anyone nearer yourself...

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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #268 on: December 03, 2015, 12:42:39 PM »
I don't mess with the dose, but my sleep patterns change more than the english weather ::)

Spoiler for Hiden:
* Falling asleep really early, waking up between 2-4-ish, then waking up really tired
* Falling asleep late, waking up between 5-6-ish, then waking up really tired
* Sleeping the night through but waking up really tired because I can remember the dreams and they make me really tired (physically or emotionally) - the ones I remember are always the scary, anxious, upsetting ones...
* Sleeping 9-10 hours straight on sundays and still waking up really tired
...
see a pattern in the end result? ::)

erm... EFT doesn't seem very attractive, sorry
I plan to go back to the one I used during my last episode, 6 years ago, who focuses on "psycho-dynamic/psycho-analytic psychotherapy". It worked, she did help.
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #269 on: December 03, 2015, 05:57:36 PM »
Pffff.
Doc said there's not anything else she can do for me, just keep the medication going, and I should really try therapy. I've done it in the past, and loved the therapist, she was quite good and helped lots, but it kinda feels like a failure to go back to her once again.
Maybe I'll try the local groups... maybe in January...

Hi Scarlet,
Besides being a writer (and Sci-Fi fan), I work as a psychiatrist. I often get this complaint, that returning to treatment sounds like a defeat. Or that the previous treatment did not work. This is common, for depression, in most cases, is recurrent. However, one must recognize early signs of relapse so that treatment can be reinitiated ASAP. For better outcome, quality of life, etc. I have some patients that refrain from stopping medication (or therapy), even if I tell them they could stop, because they are feeling so well with the treatment they do not want to risk it. Well, that's it, good luck with your treatment.