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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #60 on: July 14, 2015, 09:13:44 PM »
Chocolate museum? You have to go!
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #61 on: July 15, 2015, 09:18:56 AM »
Chocolate museum isn't that good to buy chocolate tho. The stuff there is too expensive. Better buy your chocolate in a normal convenience store here, same quality :p If you want the chocolate fountain, it's cheapest on the internet. (And tasty)

The french fries museum is a tourist trap, so are the fries you can buy on the square in front of the belfry. Better off buying them some streets away.

Also: don't pet the swans, navigate on the spires when you're lost and everyone that is not a bloody tourist knows some english  :P

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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #62 on: July 15, 2015, 10:59:00 AM »
navigate on the spires?
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #63 on: July 15, 2015, 11:19:51 AM »
navigate on the spires?

Belfry, church of the father and church of the mother. They stick out over all the houses. Easy to go to when you get lost in the winding streets.

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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #64 on: July 15, 2015, 11:36:50 AM »
See, I got that - not need for explanation :D
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #65 on: July 26, 2015, 06:14:56 PM »
So, this thread has been quiet.

How are you doing, Scarletbea? And everyone else dealing with difficulties, for that matter.
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #66 on: July 26, 2015, 06:28:39 PM »
Thanks for asking, Eli.
You see, I was almost using this thread as therapy and thought people were sick of hearing me go on and on...

Yesterday I wrote in my diary that I felt that I had turned a corner; that my physical symptoms seemed to be much better, and now it was mostly the mental ones. And this because the week of my holidays turned out better than I expected. Yes, I still had a few crying moments, which I managed in churches or museum corners (hehe), but all in all, much less than I feared.
Of course, after writing that, I was once again awake for a couple of hours in the middle of the night ::)
But while before it felt like 1.5 steps forward and 1 step back, now it's more 2 or 3 forward and 1 back :)
So all's moving in the right direction, faster. Of course, I don't expect (or want) to leave my medication any time soon...

What about you? How have you been with people interaction? Any progress - and I mean only if you want to, of course.
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #67 on: July 26, 2015, 06:50:20 PM »
I've only just seen this thread, given I'm just back, and I am overwhelmed by how lovely and caring you all are. Good work people!
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #68 on: July 26, 2015, 11:29:51 PM »
Thanks for asking, Eli.
You see, I was almost using this thread as therapy and thought people were sick of hearing me go on and on...

Yesterday I wrote in my diary that I felt that I had turned a corner; that my physical symptoms seemed to be much better, and now it was mostly the mental ones. And this because the week of my holidays turned out better than I expected. Yes, I still had a few crying moments, which I managed in churches or museum corners (hehe), but all in all, much less than I feared.
Of course, after writing that, I was once again awake for a couple of hours in the middle of the night ::)
But while before it felt like 1.5 steps forward and 1 step back, now it's more 2 or 3 forward and 1 back :)
So all's moving in the right direction, faster. Of course, I don't expect (or want) to leave my medication any time soon...

What about you? How have you been with people interaction? Any progress - and I mean only if you want to, of course.

Good that you're doing better.

Well I haven't suddenly gotten better at getting to know new people. I went to a little cocoa-and-waffles gathering held by relatives and I just couldn't stay long because of the clamour. I also didn't attend a forest BBQ yesterday because I know how I usually am at large gatherings, and I'm weary of social disappointments.

On the other hand my friends and I have been managing to meet regularly for pen and paper RPG's, so that's been fun
I AM feeling a lot better than I have been doing this year. I got my fifth Icelandic novel published this July, so that's off my back. I also made the decision to give Icelandic publishing a rest for at least a year (or possibly indefinitely), and focus on translating into English. It has really brought my stress levels down. And I'm more than halfway through translating the next book I'm going to put on Amazon, and I've been using my July vacation to just relax, go for cycling tours and nature walks and the rest has been doing wonders for me.

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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #69 on: July 27, 2015, 01:28:12 AM »
If this thread provides any kind of good therapy as well as company and comfort that is just what it is meant for and I'm glad it is here. 

I found this article about a clever Emergency App for phones and it may be useful to others. Don't be put off by title, it is not just for autistic people but as the examples show can be adapted for many situations.

I have a friend who has occasional severe Meniere's disease attacks, but knows that usually a quiet place to sit  and help to call family is all that is needed. Unfortunately she had semi collapse in shopping centre one day, with and   so she couldn't explain properly what was happening before helpful people called ambulance and she got taken to hospital. If she had one of these Apps she could have used it at earliest onset and shown someone so they would have known what to do.

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Sometimes, when you're stressed out, the absolute last thing you need is for someone to ask you how they can help. It's a nice gesture, of course, but when you've reached a certain point in your panic attack, you probably don't have the brainpower left to articulate your needs.

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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #70 on: July 31, 2015, 12:54:12 PM »
Blip.
Big step backwards last night/this morning, working from home today.
A friend brought me my work laptop and we chatted for a long while, it felt quite helpful - and then she stayed over the rest of the morning, each of us working separately.
I'm on lunch break now, then work but slowly, calmly.

I think I might have overstretched myself because I was feeling almost normal, and then it came back with a vengeance. Nothing is ever straight-forward, is it? :-\
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Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #71 on: July 31, 2015, 12:58:02 PM »
as long as you know you can keep moving forward, it's something you can handle. but incredibly frustrating, yes?


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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #72 on: July 31, 2015, 01:13:20 PM »
Blip.
Big step backwards last night/this morning, working from home today.
A friend brought me my work laptop and we chatted for a long while, it felt quite helpful - and then she stayed over the rest of the morning, each of us working separately.
I'm on lunch break now, then work but slowly, calmly.

I think I might have overstretched myself because I was feeling almost normal, and then it came back with a vengeance. Nothing is ever straight-forward, is it? :-\

I know it's not comparable but I lift weights three times a week. Last summer I was all geared up to break my bench press record when my shoulder went to hell. I had to drastically scale down my weights and retrain the shoulder for months before climbing back up. I was almost up to my peak in November and thinking of participating in an annuals New Year's Eve bench tournament when my other shoulder had a less severe whoopsie. But again, I trained and got it into working order and was set to do well for my puny weight class at the tournament. Then I got a migraine a couple of hours before the event and couldn't do squat. I was bitter and made two more attempts to break my record this year and suffered two more  shoulder problems. Now I've decided to bench only medium weights throughout the year and work on the little muscles that help prevent such issues.

I guess my point is that wanting to get right back to your best is understandable, but taking time with recovery can be worth it. Hang in there.
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #73 on: July 31, 2015, 03:16:22 PM »
@ScarlettBea
Don't forget the graphic you posted earlier on in this thread Bea. The wildest swings we see in our moods occur in about the middle of our recovery cycle. So it's totally usual to be feeling better and then crash to the bottom of the pit.
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #74 on: July 31, 2015, 06:48:01 PM »
Thanks guys, your words do help a lot. :-*

Eli, that is just so awful! All that time trying to recover, only to keep falling again. I'm so glad you managed to find something you can do, and you didn't let all that bring you down, or give up. You're a great example!

Waka, thanks for reminding me of things I myself have said hehe, so true, and yet I just couldn't think about that.

I think that my improvements last week were maybe also linked to all the walking and 'outside time' that I had. I will start walking more, now, and maybe start with little runs too - I remember before all this how that always gave me a good mood afterwards.
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