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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #45 on: June 29, 2015, 08:58:58 PM »
I feel no compunction to be honest in such situations.  ;D
But then, nothing much embarrasses me.
Which is a good thing, considering how many embarrassing things I say and do each day.  :o
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #46 on: July 07, 2015, 01:47:02 PM »
Quite often, when I'm feeling more ballsy, I brush this off with the response;
"Still taking the pills. How about you?"

It's been my experience that most people are really only interested in themselves are are only too happy to reverse out of troubled waters and talk about their favourite subject. With others, like good friends, it tells them all they need to know and if they want to know more then they know they can ask.

Do not feel compelled to answer with an explantation or even honestly. It's a universal constant that everyone knows "Fine" doesn't mean fine anyway.

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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #47 on: July 07, 2015, 01:54:30 PM »
Thanks, Waka.

Sometimes I also answer to "How are you? / How are you going?", with a simple "I'm going ::)"

I like the "still taking the pills" one ;D
It's one I can get used to, since it's going to be a constant for many months hehe
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #48 on: July 08, 2015, 09:43:40 AM »
My quite significant experiences with depression are not something I like to discuss (the only people I've ever discussed things with are medical professionals and my wife), but I think it's great that some of you have used this as a means of 'airing' your views/thoughts/advice/feelings ... the internet can be a wonderful place sometimes  :)

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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #49 on: July 08, 2015, 10:29:57 AM »
Titus, thanks for posting that.
I fully understand where you're coming from, I was like you the very first time I had it, 18 years ago.

This time, the 4th - not sure if it's because I've got more self-confidence, or the words to talk about it 'better', or because I've encountered some silly (not to mention unintentionally hurtful) replies - I'm trying to be more open:
* at work, to avoid the stigma still surrounding the illness with some people, and because every time I say it, someone comes to me and either has had it too or knows someone who does - and yet everyone thinks they're the only ones
* here, because I've come to count the regulars as my friends (some are really good friends, who've 'saved' me a few times) - and because I realise that keeping things to myself is the easiest way to make the recovery much harder for me
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #50 on: July 09, 2015, 02:54:12 AM »
So off=topic, but you guys have been talking about mentioning "fantasy."
I find that when  talk about what I write, I always say "Science Fiction and Fantasy."
I just shy away from saying "Fantasy" all on its lonesome.
Such a wimp.  :-[

I say fiction and horror. Horror in fiction. It's wide, true and indeed less geeky sounding!  ::)
I feel you Jmack, but don't worry. It doesn't matter. Anyone interested in reading fantasy or SF would want to know more and judge your work not the "idea" of you drooling over a tacky, 80's tropes-ridden sword and sorcery draft...
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #51 on: July 09, 2015, 02:35:23 PM »
I've only spent a short time on here, but I think that this is my favorite thread. This was a wonderful read and those comics are something amazing. I might start a mental illness board on Pinterest, if only to keep such things because they did give me strength.

Usually, when someone asks, "How are you?" I repeat it back to them. Most people carry on blissfully and I've learned that the ones who aren't just asking on automation will say something like, "Fine, but how are you?" I've even gotten someone to open up to me about the hard time they were having... not that it was my intention. But just as people usually don't see me going through a hard time, I didn't even consider that this person was struggling.

@ScarletBea hugs are all I can offer, love! Hugs and to say, that I can understand what you're going through. I've been there. It's probably only a matter of time before I go back. But I will get through it. And we're here to help you.

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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #52 on: July 13, 2015, 09:39:49 PM »
I know, in my 'good' mind, that I don't really want to cancel my holidays.
My doctor told me not to.
But at the moment the thought of packing and deciding things, despite my lists, is incredibly overwhelming. It just freezes me and sends me off into crisis.
And the thought of all the travel... train, waiting, plane, train...
Once I'm there, I think I'll be ok.
Until then... not so much :-\
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #53 on: July 14, 2015, 12:21:10 AM »
I know, in my 'good' mind, that I don't really want to cancel my holidays.
My doctor told me not to.
But at the moment the thought of packing and deciding things, despite my lists, is incredibly overwhelming. It just freezes me and sends me off into crisis.
And the thought of all the travel... train, waiting, plane, train...
Once I'm there, I think I'll be ok.
Until then... not so much :-\
It's going to be totally great [he says, going all polly-anna on you again]. But it will!  ;D
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #54 on: July 14, 2015, 05:55:39 PM »
Where are you going on you Holidays ? is this the Belgium trip or somewhere more Exotic  ;) you have to have some Belgium cake and tell me about it and maybe take a photo of that rare creature called Henry Dale,have a great holiday
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #55 on: July 14, 2015, 07:00:11 PM »
Where are you going on you Holidays ? is this the Belgium trip or somewhere more Exotic  ;) you have to have some Belgium cake and tell me about it and maybe take a photo of that rare creature called Henry Dale,have a great holiday

What's Belgium cake?  ???

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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #56 on: July 14, 2015, 07:07:27 PM »
Where are you going on you Holidays ? is this the Belgium trip or somewhere more Exotic  ;) you have to have some Belgium cake and tell me about it and maybe take a photo of that rare creature called Henry Dale,have a great holiday

What's Belgium cake?  ???

It's made by pixies in the night  :) who escape from fairy tale book to have a break and the cake there make taste's delicious but you have to be quick to get you hands on them as the cake vanishes in daylight. There guard the recipe of Belgian Chocolate Truffle quite jealously as there don't wont sprites to get their secrets  :)
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #57 on: July 14, 2015, 07:29:05 PM »
You know I feel like having some Belgian Waffles with ice cream and Maple syrup maybe with some sliced banana added in to try and be healthy  ;D
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #58 on: July 14, 2015, 08:21:26 PM »
I have the Chocolate Museum on my list ;D

And you know Henry isn't really like his RPG character... or is he? 8)
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Re: Depression is a bitch... from a friend
« Reply #59 on: July 14, 2015, 09:04:22 PM »
I have the Chocolate Museum on my list ;D

And you know Henry isn't really like his RPG character... or is he? 8)

Or am I? Dun dun dunnnnn!