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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2865 on: November 01, 2019, 12:08:21 PM »
Hugs and wishes and cute animals are never late, never have bad timing.
I love them, and help me get on with my days - if it wasn't that bad, it simply gets better :D

 :-* to you all
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2866 on: November 01, 2019, 04:17:22 PM »
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@xiagan  I'm really curious about this shaved gorilla

I used to work with a stategically shaved gorilla called Nigel. Useful for moving really heavy stuff.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2867 on: November 07, 2019, 08:39:28 PM »
I think this was a Work event  team bonding thing

Brother in law  has concussion and a fracture of his ankle.  He was lucky - he was the passenger and another car went into his side of the car at 70 miles per hour.  He was unconscious and had to be cut out of the car.  Luckily he was wearing a crash helmet and there was an interior cage in the car. 

Needs to have operation on his ankle on Monday.

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2868 on: November 07, 2019, 09:35:11 PM »
Gosh, that sounds really serious, Eclipse! I hope everything goes well.

Was it one of those racing things on a closed track? I mean, normally you don't wear helmets inside cars.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2869 on: November 08, 2019, 02:28:16 AM »
Hope your brother in law gets well soon, Eclipse. *offers silent support*

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« Reply #2870 on: November 08, 2019, 09:42:31 PM »
Hope he gets paid leave. The employers ought to give additional compensation for such risky activities.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2871 on: November 09, 2019, 09:12:29 AM »
Hope he gets paid leave. The employers ought to give additional compensation for such risky activities.
Wow, you don't have sick leave in the US? :o
When you're ill and can't work you have to use holiday days?
When I had the cancer I still got full pay for 6 months, and then moved to half pay, which only lasted a month because then I returned to work a few days a week, increasing, but they immediately started paying me in full again.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2872 on: November 09, 2019, 01:53:00 PM »
Hope he gets paid leave. The employers ought to give additional compensation for such risky activities.
Wow, you don't have sick leave in the US? :o
When you're ill and can't work you have to use holiday days?
When I had the cancer I still got full pay for 6 months, and then moved to half pay, which only lasted a month because then I returned to work a few days a week, increasing, but they immediately started paying me in full again.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2873 on: November 10, 2019, 03:21:26 AM »
I've been feeling horrible horrible horrible again ever since yesterday morning due to many accumulated reasons. On the morning two days prior, I had a clear episode of mania, where my thoughts whirled in mad excitement and my body had the utmost jitters and I feel I'd need to do something productive or I'd die. That feeling lasted for an entire day. On the morning of the next day I went into a depressive episode, where I felt so tired and drained that even standing up, walking about, and doing anything became a labor in itself. I only leaned my head against walls and mugged in my endless spiral of dark thoughts and feeling wretched about myself. Woke up this morning and the depression still persists, which kind of sucked.  :-\

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2874 on: November 10, 2019, 09:15:39 AM »
Inky,

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2875 on: November 11, 2019, 08:37:57 AM »
I'm sorry to hear that, Inky. Hang in there.

I'll notify your next of kin... that you sucked!

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2876 on: November 21, 2019, 12:42:19 PM »
Today I found out that another of my close friends at work is leaving :'(
I joked that I've got the 'touch of death' (it's the 5th one), but it's not funny anymore...

I know that I'll still be seeing them, but it's very different, you need to arrange meetings and have limited time, and so on, instead of being able to have a chat when you really need it, during the day.
I hadn't realised before how important and needed those honest chats are for my health...
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2877 on: November 23, 2019, 03:26:39 AM »
Hope he gets paid leave. The employers ought to give additional compensation for such risky activities.
Wow, you don't have sick leave in the US? :o
When you're ill and can't work you have to use holiday days?
When I had the cancer I still got full pay for 6 months, and then moved to half pay, which only lasted a month because then I returned to work a few days a week, increasing, but they immediately started paying me in full again.

Lol, we do have. But it depends. Anything less than 3 days, we can take as is. More and sometimes we may need to provide doctors certificate (depends on manager though). But a long term absence (like 3 months+) like an accident....I'm actually not sure.

Do UK employers cover sick leave irrespective of length?
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2878 on: November 23, 2019, 09:53:11 AM »
Oh definitely not, there's a limit in length for any type of sick pay.
It also depends on employers the length of full pay they offer, it can be for example 4 months with full pay then 50% for another 4 months.
We also ned to present a doctor's certificate for anything longer than a couple of days.

And as I'm slowly discovering, some (bad) employers hide behind the "self-employed" status of their workers to not pay any of the legal benefits :-\
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2879 on: December 05, 2019, 03:37:46 AM »
I'm reading loads and loads of books nowadays, not just fiction but also on law, , medicine, foreign languages, and any other things that I could get my hands on and are of my interest. I'd discovered that it helped me immensely to put my mind into reading rather than letting my thoughts remained stagnant in a vicious cycle of depressive moods.  I might ended up being more knowledgeable in the end too, so that's a nice bonus.  :D