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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2295 on: May 23, 2018, 12:07:27 PM »
Five bypasses? That's a shame. Pretty sure if you buy five the sixth is free  ;D

I laughed at the absurdity of this then I realised it probably reads like satire to a lot of people.  I have my share of worries, but getting sick and not being able to afford health care isn't one of them.

I'm glad to hear the surgery went well for JMack!

Gave me a good laugh.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2296 on: May 23, 2018, 12:19:42 PM »
Welcome back my friend. Just a few days for us, but perhaps you'd say "what a long, strange trip it's been".
Rest and sleep and take it easy :)
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2297 on: May 23, 2018, 12:20:30 PM »
^ that!

Just relax, read and write :D
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2298 on: May 23, 2018, 02:43:53 PM »
Its been quite an experience, and it ain’t over yet.

There’s been quite a religious aspect as well. I know many friends here don’t find that a useful part of their lives, but I’ve been doing some foxhole prayers and actually had an amazing moment that took away pain, fear, and trembling. Not forever, of corse, but in the moment it made a huge difference.

Anway, wha an incredible amount of technology and craftsmanship has been Syrian at me. I’m very fortunate that I got stuck in a town with a top heart surgery hospital.

TGC, how is Mrs. Gemmie?
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2299 on: May 23, 2018, 03:23:44 PM »
Thanks for asking, especially with everything on your own plate.
She is doing well for someone with a hole in her leg for months. The skin graft will be replaced the first week of June, which will lead to another 6-week wound recovery. This should be a simpler affair, as before it was three wounds (lymph node taken to screen for cancer spread, the site where they take the skin, and the wound itself), this time just the two. The site where they take the skin is the painful part - they essentially flay your skin over a 5 x 8 area. Ramsay Bolton, anyone?

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2300 on: May 23, 2018, 03:32:21 PM »
incredible amount of technology and craftsmanship has been Syrian at me.
I'm trying, but can't identify the word that autocorrect replaced ;D
Anyway I agree, modern medicine is just fantastic!

And what do you mean, it ain't over yet? Are there more procedures and stuff that you need to go through? Or is it 'just' the recovery?
Feel free to send PM or mail, and/or let me know if you'd like a skype chat (video or just writing, hehe)

And gosh, Gem, that sounds really hard :-\
Sending lots of strength to the both of you too x
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2301 on: May 23, 2018, 04:00:09 PM »
Ha. Syrian = thrown. Who knew?!

Yes, the recovery part. Today they took out all sorts of tubes, catheters, IV, and oxygen line that were infesting my body. All good now. But lots of long recovery.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2302 on: May 23, 2018, 06:45:35 PM »
I hope you take things easy, then, and that work doesn't demand that you return asap.
Given the seriousness of the illness, aren't you getting any paid leave?
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2303 on: May 23, 2018, 07:17:57 PM »
I hope you take things easy, then, and that work doesn't demand that you return asap.
Given the seriousness of the illness, aren't you getting any paid leave?

I’m on “short term disability” which pays 70% of salary. I then supplement with paid time off at about 1 days of PTO to fill the gap for 3.3 days of the missing money. I’m expecting to be out about 2 months by the time this is all done.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2304 on: May 23, 2018, 07:53:35 PM »
I'm glad it all went well! :)
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2305 on: May 24, 2018, 04:23:49 AM »
So glad the surgery went well @JMack and that you're slowly on the mend.

And that religious aspect of it is  cool, too. Nice that you had a moment of less pain.

Here's to a speedy recovery
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2306 on: May 24, 2018, 05:17:17 AM »
Today my wife slipped a little factoid my way that I had overlooked: there's an 80% chance her type of cancer will reoccur elsewhere. It tends to manifest in the lungs or brain. So the battle may in fact be a campaign. She's so brave and stoic. I so married up. I am sure this sounds silly coming from a spouse, but she's got more character than anyone I know.
As for me, I find myself feeling like the knight in my "Letters" story, getting a note from the enemy that says that, despite my recent win, ultimate victory may well be beyond me. *reaches for armor* Fuck em.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2307 on: May 24, 2018, 10:08:07 AM »
More hugs...
And statistics are just theoretical numbers to give you advance warning: 20% is still a lot of people, and anyway if the doctors know this, they'll be checking a lot more regularly, so even if it appears, it's caught early and treated.

Sorry if this doesn't help, it's in my nature to be optimistic and look at things on the positive side :-\ Feel free to tell me to stop, I won't be offended ;D
(also saying this because I've got the 6-months check-up next week and that's my attitude to myself... ::))
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2308 on: May 24, 2018, 10:50:34 AM »
*hugs for everyone*

And yay for Jmack being up and about!  :D

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2309 on: May 26, 2018, 12:05:25 AM »
Charlie Chaplin made his name in silent films. But God damn it, when he did talk he sure had something to say. I saw a few of his films as a kid, circa 1990. At some point close to that date I saw The Great Dictator on TV. Just about the only thing I remember about that film is the immortal climactic speech. I urge everyone on Earth to listen to it:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J7GY1Xg6X20
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