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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2265 on: May 17, 2018, 01:35:11 AM »
I will say the one part of ready player one I really related to was the part where they meet each other in person and how they defied each other's expectations but still knew each other and had a genuine connection. Some things like nonverbal communication make in person meetings valuable, but it's also liberating to connect in a space where you're not ruled by how you look dress or sound. I bet @tebakutis would have a lot to say about this. There's a solar steam sauna at burning man where you meet tons of people standing naked in a sweat lodge-- it's kind of crazy stepping out and seeing people out their clothes back on bc out really affects how you judge them on a subconscious level. Granted at burning man it meant the guy you were talking to gets into a chicken costume and the girl gets into post apocalyptic Mad Max bruiser gear... I guess what I'm saying is that maybe the connections you make here are even *more* real than meeting in person, on certain levels at least. @ArcaneArtsVelho I totally get you about the one-sided kind of faux engagement you see on YouTube or Instagram or Facebook "influencer" accounts that's totally creepy. I guess you mentioning that makes me cherish how sweet the space we have here is.

Unrelated-- when you know what you need to do to get writing but just don't... How do you motivate (or discipline) yourselves?
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2266 on: May 17, 2018, 10:41:28 AM »
I totally get you about the one-sided kind of faux engagement you see on YouTube or Instagram or Facebook "influencer" accounts that's totally creepy. I guess you mentioning that makes me cherish how sweet the space we have here is.
Yes, it is creepy if a person purposefully and maliciously uses this... human nature (?) to their advantage.
That being said, I wasn't talking specifically about anything creepy in my last post. I was merely pondering about the way we humans can appreciate some stranger's content and/or personality (or even image?) so much that we become emotionally invested in that person even though he/she doesn't have any direct communication with us or doesn't even necessarily know that we exist. I guess that's just a form of fandom? So, nothing new, but perhaps more prevalent these days?
It makes very little sense to me but is, like I said, very real.
But yes, it can be creepy, both ways in fact, if there is abuse or crazy obsession related to this one-sided emotional connection.

Oh, and I wonder if this forum being such a nice place has anything to do with the fact that all the bad people out there can't make an account? Or even the good people, for that matter...  :P ;D
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2267 on: May 17, 2018, 10:46:30 AM »
I was merely pondering about the way we humans can appreciate some stranger's content and/or personality (or even image?) so much that we become emotionally invested in that person even though he/she doesn't have any direct communication with us or doesn't even necessarily know that we exist. I guess that's just a form of fandom? So, nothing new, but perhaps more prevalent these days?
It makes very little sense to me but is, like I said, very real.
:-[ This happened to me - when I saw Jen Williams at the signing in March I went up to her and started chatting as if we were old friends, just because of reading her twitter :-[
Then I realised what I was doing, got really embarrassed and apologised and explained - she was nice, she understood, hehe

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Oh, and I wonder if this forum being such a nice place has anything to do with the fact that all the bad people out there can't make an account? Or even the good people, for that matter...  :P ;D
:-\ Marc is working on it, at least he said he'd do it...
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2268 on: May 18, 2018, 09:58:40 AM »
@ArcaneArtsVelho I made a post about that:

http://fantasy-faction.com/forum/forum-help/bugs-errors/msg185131/#msg185131

Also you might find this article about internet vs. friendships interesting.  It mentions offhand that are brains are wired to feel like we know celebrities because we've seen so much of them.

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/05/12/style/who-are-my-real-friends.html

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2269 on: May 18, 2018, 12:17:30 PM »
@ArcaneArtsVelho I made a post about that:

http://fantasy-faction.com/forum/forum-help/bugs-errors/msg185131/#msg185131
Oh, I read that.
Hadn't liked it for some reason, though.  ???
Surely a mistake on my part.
Corrected!  :)
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2270 on: May 18, 2018, 01:09:44 PM »
Super late I know (cuz I'm just always late?)
But best wishes to @JMack!
Hope everything goes alright and that you get to be up and about in no time \o/

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2271 on: May 19, 2018, 12:46:42 AM »
Wonderful and frustrating day.

The frustrating: My blood still has too much anticoagulant in it for surgery tomorrow. So, delayed until Monday - assuming the plavix is gone. By then, will have been sitting on my arse in a hospital bed for a full week, feeling pretty much absolutely fine.

The wonderful: Celia told us that Dave would be face-timing at 1:30. So at 1:30 he walked into the hospital room after a five hour drive up from Ohio. He stayed 4 hours and turned right around to go back, since he has farmers markets tomorrow where he makes his living selling the hummus he makes. And at 2:00, my mom and her wife arrived. They were expected, but equally welcome. Finally, I’ve cozied up to the hospital staff all week building good will (because of course it was entirely selfish of me to do so; nothing to do with just being a decent enough guy) and cashed it all in to get into a private room away from my unfortunate roommate whose discomfort, irascibility, and lack of English language have meant multiple nightly disruptions and lack of sleep for me.

Plus:
My workplace “daughters” (there’s a story to that) sent me a lovely Star Wars themes journal and C3PO Cross pen, and the woman who works for me sent a digital recorder - both gift sets intended to help me write during my hiatus.

Ok. So basically a wonderful day.  :)
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2272 on: May 19, 2018, 01:41:50 AM »
Sorry about the prolonged frustration at having to endure so much delay, JMack, but glad they are so careful with you.

So, you have bamboozled and sweet-talked the staff into giving you a room to yourself ;D. Do we nickname you SilverFox now? That should make the wait more bearable with peace and quiet. Also much more comfortable with your visitors, and happy for you that the whole family is managing to visit.  ;D

You do realise we will be expecting new direction overload in future stories, after all this time to imagine and daydream ?   Thoughts and happy wishes.  8)



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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2273 on: May 19, 2018, 02:24:04 AM »
Wonderful and frustrating day.

Hoping for the best for you. Keep us updated!

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2274 on: May 19, 2018, 11:33:49 AM »

So, you have bamboozled and sweet-talked the staff into giving you a room to yourself ;D. Do we nickname you SilverFox now?

Yes, yes you do.   8)
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2275 on: May 21, 2018, 11:22:33 AM »
Today’s the day.
Mrs. JMack will text @ScarletBea when we know I’m good, so she can let anyone else here know.
On to the next chapter in this slow journey.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2276 on: May 21, 2018, 12:32:34 PM »
Best of luck

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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2277 on: May 21, 2018, 12:40:50 PM »
Today’s the day.
Mrs. JMack will text @ScarletBea when we know I’m good, so she can let anyone else here know.
On to the next chapter in this slow journey.
Thanks, I'll be waiting.
Lots of good luck for you! xx
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2278 on: May 21, 2018, 12:47:44 PM »
Good luck, we are all pulling for you.
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Re: Depression, Struggles and Light at the End of Every Tunnel
« Reply #2279 on: May 21, 2018, 12:48:40 PM »
Good luck! We will be thinking of you!

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