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A Personal Note
« on: May 01, 2015, 01:47:51 PM »
This is a personal note from the real world, with a link to the Forum and my wonderful experience here.

My step-mother passed away this morning. She'd been with my dad for 35 years, since their mutual mid-forties. She nicknamed herself our WSM - wicked step mother - because she knew and we knew she was anything but. She was one of these folk s who had no patience for fools, made everyone else raise their own bar, and was always trying to do something good for people. She ran a fuel fund for low income folks in the bitter North for the last ten years.

So we all have our personal tragedies and problems, and for the most part we don't flaunt and flag them here. I'm new to forums, and not sure of all the divisions between the "real world" and this actually also real world.

But I wanted to mention here that she's been my primary alpha reader for the last several months of the writing contest, and especially of the Plot Twist story.  She and my wife kept telling me that my early versions made no sense. They kept pushing me to do better. My WSM even started getting plot bunny fits and telling me all the ways she thought Good Dog should go. The last line of the story is hers, almost verbatim. She still hated the story by the end but said it was "better than it started, and don't you dare write another so depressing."

In fact, she would call me on the phone and say "When are you sending me the next story?" And I'd say, "Xi doesn't post it until the start of the next month." She would harumph (almost literally) and say something to the effect that "that Xiagan person or whatever he calls himself" should just get on with it because she was ready to read another.

There will be a lot of people giving up a toast for the WSM, but you're the only ones who'll understand about the stories.

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Re: A Personal Note
« Reply #1 on: May 01, 2015, 02:39:04 PM »
*hugs*
because despite everything, sometimes words just aren't enough/right
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Re: A Personal Note
« Reply #2 on: May 01, 2015, 02:50:58 PM »
First and foremost my condolences Jmack. (even though those never help to soften the pain of missing someone who takes such a prominent place in your life) Although being new myself- even newer than you actually- I believe everyone chooses for himself how much real world he shares on here. After all, none of us are completely virtual people (I hope -.-). So if it helps you to shoulder this, feel free to throw it on the boards, for my part.

Maybe it's a stupid idea but perhaps you could make your next story for the fairytale month a tribute to her? WSM does seem to fit the bill there. Make it something epic, as you usually do  :)

Raise a drink to Jmack's WSM.

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Re: A Personal Note
« Reply #3 on: May 01, 2015, 02:54:04 PM »
My thoughts and love are with you and your family at this sad time.
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Re: A Personal Note
« Reply #4 on: May 01, 2015, 03:00:14 PM »
That was a beautiful tribute to your loving StepMother, thank you for telling us about her and sharing how she loved your FF writing. My thoughts and sympathy to you and your family, this is so hard for you all.
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Re: A Personal Note
« Reply #5 on: May 01, 2015, 03:36:08 PM »
My condolences, @Jmack. Your words were a lovely tribute, and so full of life and love that I think we can almost say we got to know her a little bit, and it was lovely  :)

Keep on writing, my friend. From what you've told us, that would make her very happy  ;)
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Re: A Personal Note
« Reply #6 on: May 02, 2015, 01:18:12 AM »
Wonderful tribute to your WSM @Jmack, my condolences and sympathy to you and your family at a time of loss for you all.
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Re: A Personal Note
« Reply #7 on: May 03, 2015, 02:18:09 AM »
Definitely joining in giving my condolences. It seems you've lost a great family member, but still is a good kind of departure I guess, as you had good times, your father must have spent beautiful years with WSM, and she'll apparently leave you all with great memories, if accompanied by the inevitable sense of loss and grieving..

Be strong!   :)
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Re: A Personal Note
« Reply #8 on: May 03, 2015, 10:36:27 PM »
So sorry for your loss - she sounds like she was a top lady x
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