Being straight is not a reason not to write about LGBT issues. We write about sword fights and magic. We constantly stretch ourselves. LGBT people are just people. Treat them so. Maybe in your culture they are treated different, specific ways, but that is great that you are grappling with the issues. Man up and stop whining. It sounds a little phobic, to me, if you will forgive me.
And thanks for bringing up the issue. It is important.
Not sure if you were responding to me...
I'm not whining. I am saying I think I need to work at it harder(in the same way I do when I'm writing a male POV, cos, like, I'm not a guy. But then, I've lived with plenty of straight guys, so I know what affects them/how they think to an extent. While I do know plenty of LGBT, you don't know anyone/what they have to deal with daily until you live with them), and I can see why some writers shy away from the whole area because they just don't want the flack, you know? I very nearly subbed something that would have been fairly offensive to a US reader (or some at least). Because I used a couple of terms that for them have HUGE connotations, but absolutely none for me. I would like to avoid that on this issue, or any issue. Well, okay, at least unintentionally. If I'm going to offend someone, I want it to be on purpose!
What can I say? I just want to do it right
. I am writing my guy just as the person he is inside. But it's too simple to say 'Just write/know your character'. Plenty of male writers do that with their women, and as I said upthread, make such a hash of it I'll never read anything they write again. EVER. Just thinking
about some of them brings me out in an indignant rash<-- one of these is mentioned quite a lot on these boards as a favourite writer. >< Many of my LGBT friends have writers they won't read because of the way LGBT are portrayed. Heck, I've sworn off a couple of writers for that too. I would rather not have that happen to me/my books
Does that sound phobic? Or should I just say 'screw it' and write something that may inadvertently really piss off people I happen to like? I never say 'just screw it' with my writing - the one thing in my life I take seriously is my writing.
Yes, I always write my characters just as they are
I work very hard on my characters as people first gender/race/sexual orientation/religion/whatever second, the same way I am with people IRL - they are people first.
That doesn't mean I won't unwittingly cock it up.
also, I know that there are things that LGBT find offensive that I am not aware of
I should incorporate this into my writing,and will
I could still get shit for it a la #racefail (because I could still cock it up - I can ask lots of my LGBT friends to beta, but frankly, they don;t find much offensive. Other LGBT do) in a way that I probably won't if I screw up a straight male POV for instance
Because the issues are very much in peoples' minds these days
Because there are people I value and care about I don't want to upset
All of which makes me just that tad more careful (same as I was careful with my research into Vikings for my next release).
And which makes some other writers not put LGBT/ethnic minorities in their works
Which is a shame.
And more LGBT characters will probably come forth as more LGBT writers come forth. Which is a good thing.